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> [We tend to look through language and not realize how much power language has](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/we-tend-to-look-through-language-and-not-realize-how-much-power/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

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## More by Deborah Tannen

> [In dialogue, there is opposition, yes, but no head-on collision. Smashing heads does not open minds.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/in-dialogue-there-is-opposition-yes-but-no-head-on-collision-smashing/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

> [Cooperation isn't the absence of conflict but a means of managing conflict.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/cooperation-isn-t-the-absence-of-conflict-but-a-means-of-managing/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

> [Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/communication-is-a-continual-balancing-act-juggling-the-conflicting/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

> [“A woman will be inclined to repeat a request that doesn't get a response because she is convinced that her husband would do what…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/a-woman-will-be-inclined-to-repeat-a-request-that-doesn-t-get-a/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

> [Like most men, my father is interested in action. And this is why he disappoints my mother when she tells him she doesn't feel…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/like-most-men-my-father-is-interested-in-action-and-this-is-why-he/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

> [“...You're so real. That's why we love you." ... Her friend's response reflected the reciprocity of showing vulnerability. It is a gift not only…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/you-re-so-real-that-s-why-we-love-you-her-friend-s-response-reflected/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

> [The desire for freedom and independence becomes more of an issue for many men in relationships, whereas interdependence and connection become more of an…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/the-desire-for-freedom-and-independence-becomes-more-of-an-issue-for/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

> [To say anything about women and men without marking oneself as either feminist or anti-feminist, male-basher or apologist for men seems as impossible for…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/to-say-anything-about-women-and-men-without-marking-oneself-as-either/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

> [Communication is a continualbalancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacyand independence. To survivein the world, we have to act in concert with others,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/communication-is-a-continualbalancing-act-juggling-the-conflicting/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

> [Treating people the same is not equal treatment if they are not the same.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/treating-people-the-same-is-not-equal-treatment-if-they-are-not-the/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

> [“One reason it's so difficult to decide what to say became immediately clear: comments and questions that some appreciated were not appreciated by others.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/one-reason-it-s-so-difficult-to-decide-what-to-say-became-immediately/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

> [All conversation, in addition to whatever else it does, displays, and asks for recognition of, our competence.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/all-conversation-in-addition-to-whatever-else-it-does-displays-and/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

> [When those closest to us respond to events differently than we do, when they seem to see the same scene as part of a…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/when-those-closest-to-us-respond-to-events-differently-than-we-do/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

> [For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/for-most-women-the-language-of-conversation-is-primarily-a-language-2/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

> [Life is a matter of dealing with other people, in little matters and cataclysmic ones, and that means a series of conversations.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deborah-tannen/life-is-a-matter-of-dealing-with-other-people-in-little-matters-and/)

[Deborah Tannen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/deborah-tannen/)

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