--- title: "3 Raped Quotes By Jessica Stern" description: "3 Raped quotes by Jessica Stern. Plus more from Jessica Stern and more Raped sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5ea/jessica-stern-25042_good-enough_here-is-what-i-think-now-reading-what-i_123129.jpg" --- > [“Here is what I think now, reading what I wrote down for the police at age fifteen, right after I was raped.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/here-is-what-i-think-now-reading-what-i-wrote-down-for-the-police-at/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5ea/jessica-stern-25042_good-enough_here-is-what-i-think-now-reading-what-i_123129.jpg) > [“When I asked my father whether he thought that it was possible that his mother was raped behind that closed door, he…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/when-i-asked-my-father-whether-he-thought-that-it-was-possible-that/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1b7/jessica-stern-25042_closed-door_when-i-asked-my-father-whether-he-though_256885.jpg) > [“People say that rape is not sex, that it's violence," Lucy says, bitterly. "But it's also sex. You can't get around that,"…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/people-say-that-rape-is-not-sex-that-it-s-violence-lucy-says-bitterly/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c5a/jessica-stern-25042_quote_people-say-that-rape-is-not-sex-that-it_1681824.jpg) ## Other authors on Raped ## More by Jessica Stern > [“How much of what we think of as an admirable response to trauma - the "stiff upper lip" - is actually dissociation, the mind's…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/how-much-of-what-we-think-of-as-an-admirable-response-to-trauma-the/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) > [“Here is what I think now, reading what I wrote down for the police at age fifteen, right after I was raped. I was…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/here-is-what-i-think-now-reading-what-i-wrote-down-for-the-police-at/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) > [“I often feel like nobody," Skip says. "I ask myself: Why would you want to talk to me? Why would anyone want to talk…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/i-often-feel-like-nobody-skip-says-i-ask-myself-why-would-you-want-to/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) > [“When I asked my father whether he thought that it was possible that his mother was raped behind that closed door, he said, "She…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/when-i-asked-my-father-whether-he-thought-that-it-was-possible-that/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) > [“My breathe would catch at the sight of violets-so common in the woods at home, so surprising in the mountains. The violet's message was…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/my-breathe-would-catch-at-the-sight-of-violets-so-common-in-the-woods/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) > [“What is courage?" I ask. "Bearing witness. That is a form of courage.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/what-is-courage-i-ask-bearing-witness-that-is-a-form-of-courage/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) > [I have listened and I have been quiet all my life. But now I will speak.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/i-have-listened-and-i-have-been-quiet-all-my-life-but-now-i-will-speak/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) > [Never give up hope, spring will come.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/never-give-up-hope-spring-will-come/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) > [“Why does the threat of violent death alter some of us, even if subtly, forever? Why does it make us unusually numb or calm…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/why-does-the-threat-of-violent-death-alter-some-of-us-even-if-subtly/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) > [I will roar argon into chlorine, xenon into fluorine, all the noble gases into reactive ones My lament will terrify even the stars.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/i-will-roar-argon-into-chlorine-xenon-into-fluorine-all-the-noble/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) > [“After a series of traumas, one can lose the capacity to feel fear appropriately.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/after-a-series-of-traumas-one-can-lose-the-capacity-to-feel-fear/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) > [Some people's lives seem to flow in a narrative; mine had many stops and starts. That's what trauma does. It interrupts the plot. You…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/some-people-s-lives-seem-to-flow-in-a-narrative-mine-had-many-stops/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) > [“Other flowers came at the end of the summer, but by then the winter sadness had already dissipated, and the effect of the blooms…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/other-flowers-came-at-the-end-of-the-summer-but-by-then-the-winter/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) > [“People say that rape is not sex, that it's violence," Lucy says, bitterly. "But it's also sex. You can't get around that," she says.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/people-say-that-rape-is-not-sex-that-it-s-violence-lucy-says-bitterly/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) > [“Denial helps the bystander. We don't want to know what the boys we send to Iraq have done to others out of terror, or…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-stern/denial-helps-the-bystander-we-don-t-want-to-know-what-the-boys-we/) [Jessica Stern](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jessica-stern/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/raped/jessica-stern/#itemlist", "name": "3 Raped Quotes By Jessica Stern", "numberOfItems": 3, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“Here is what I think now, reading what I wrote down for the police at age fifteen, right after I was raped. I was a good girl. Always a good girl, even when I was bad. I did my homework. If I can only be good enough, someone will eventually notice that I am trying so hard, exhausting myself with my effort to be good. 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