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> [“The mistake we make is in thinking rape isn’t premeditated, that it happens by accident somehow, that you’re drunk and you run into a girl who’s also drunk and half-asleep on a bench and you sidle up to her and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/the-mistake-we-make-is-in-thinking-rape-isn-t-premeditated-that-it/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

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> [“And yet, being surveilled with the intention of assault or rape is practically mundane, it happens so often. It’s such an ingrained part of the female experience that it doesn’t register as unusual. The danger of it, then, is in…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/and-yet-being-surveilled-with-the-intention-of-assault-or-rape-is/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

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## More by Scaachi Koul

> [“Plenty of people take a gap year between high school and university to travel, or spend a summer back-packing through Europe to “find” themselves.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/plenty-of-people-take-a-gap-year-between-high-school-and-university/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

> [“Raisin in our only outlier for now: her mother is white, she lives in a white neighbourhood, she eats white food, she listens to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/raisin-in-our-only-outlier-for-now-her-mother-is-white-she-lives-in-a/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

> [“The great irony of growing up is that it’s often once you leave your parents’ home that you understand them the most. You get…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/the-great-irony-of-growing-up-is-that-it-s-often-once-you-leave-your/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

> [“Our story was delightful in its mundanity: we met, it worked, we're trying.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/our-story-was-delightful-in-its-mundanity-we-met-it-worked-we-re/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

> [“If Indian weddings for Indian people are the furthest from “fun,” trips to India for Indian people are the furthest from “vacation.” When I…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/if-indian-weddings-for-indian-people-are-the-furthest-from-fun-trips/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

> [“The mistake we make is in thinking rape isn’t premeditated, that it happens by accident somehow, that you’re drunk and you run into a…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/the-mistake-we-make-is-in-thinking-rape-isn-t-premeditated-that-it/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

> [“There is no cowardice in removing yourself from a wildly unhealthy and unwinnable situation . . . You shouldn't feel like you have to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/there-is-no-cowardice-in-removing-yourself-from-a-wildly-unhealthy/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

> [“Immigrant parents, when they first move to North America, push towards whiteness, towards assimilation, to survive and thrive. Naturally, their children do too for…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/immigrant-parents-when-they-first-move-to-north-america-push-towards/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

> [“And yet, being surveilled with the intention of assault or rape is practically mundane, it happens so often. It’s such an ingrained part of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/and-yet-being-surveilled-with-the-intention-of-assault-or-rape-is/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

> [“Brown people rarely explain how anyone is related to anyone. You’re simply told that these people are your family and to treat them as…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/brown-people-rarely-explain-how-anyone-is-related-to-anyone-you-re/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

> [“I like being present in spaces where I am not welcome because you do not deserve to feel comfortable just because you're racist or…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/i-like-being-present-in-spaces-where-i-am-not-welcome-because-you-do/)

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> [“Fear always reaches a breaking point and turns into anxiety or rage, and I don't have enough storage space for more fear in my…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/fear-always-reaches-a-breaking-point-and-turns-into-anxiety-or-rage/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

> [“Fitting is a luxury rarely given to immigrants, or children of immigrants. We are stuck in emotional purgatory. Home, somehow, is always the last…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/fitting-is-a-luxury-rarely-given-to-immigrants-or-children-of/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

> [“But most unsettling is how this time I notice my own fairness. I notice that while I might be a person of colour among…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/but-most-unsettling-is-how-this-time-i-notice-my-own-fairness-i/)

[Scaachi Koul](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/scaachi-koul/)

> [“Mom used to tell me that white people don't understand us, would never understand us, even when they are well-meaning and patient...I thought she…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/scaachi-koul/mom-used-to-tell-me-that-white-people-don-t-understand-us-would-never/)

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