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> [“In trying so hard to be different from our parents, we're actually doing much the same thing -- doling out empty praise the way an earlier generation doled out thoughtless criticism. If we do it to avoid thinking about our…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-grosz/in-trying-so-hard-to-be-different-from-our-parents-we-re-actually/)

[Stephen Grosz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-grosz/)

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## More by Stephen Grosz

> [It is less painful, it turns out, to feel betrayed than to feel forgotten.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-grosz/it-is-less-painful-it-turns-out-to-feel-betrayed-than-to-feel/)

[Stephen Grosz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-grosz/)

> [“my breakdown was like a furnace and what was burned away was any belief in my own feelings”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-grosz/my-breakdown-was-like-a-furnace-and-what-was-burned-away-was-any/)

[Stephen Grosz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-grosz/)

> [“And being dirty and broken – how could he love, or be loved? Going back AS A GIFT to my father for his eightieth…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-grosz/and-being-dirty-and-broken-how-could-he-love-or-be-loved-going-back/)

[Stephen Grosz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-grosz/)

> [“As he spoke, I had the mental image of a small boy switching on the nightlight, not because he wants to be able to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-grosz/as-he-spoke-i-had-the-mental-image-of-a-small-boy-switching-on-the/)

[Stephen Grosz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-grosz/)

> [Psychoanalysts are fond of pointing out that the past is alive in the present. But the future is alive in the present too. The…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-grosz/psychoanalysts-are-fond-of-pointing-out-that-the-past-is-alive-in-the/)

[Stephen Grosz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-grosz/)

> [Being present, whether with children, with friends, or even with oneself, is hard work. But isn't this attentiveness - the feeling that someone is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-grosz/being-present-whether-with-children-with-friends-or-even-with-oneself/)

[Stephen Grosz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-grosz/)

> [When we cannot find a way of telling our story, our story tells us-we dream these stories, we develop symptoms, or we find ourselves…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-grosz/when-we-cannot-find-a-way-of-telling-our-story-our-story-tells-us-we/)

[Stephen Grosz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-grosz/)

> [I want to change, but not if it means changing.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-grosz/i-want-to-change-but-not-if-it-means-changing/)

[Stephen Grosz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-grosz/)

> [Closure is just as delusive-it is the false hope that we can deaden our living grief.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-grosz/closure-is-just-as-delusive-it-is-the-false-hope-that-we-can-deaden/)

[Stephen Grosz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-grosz/)

> [“For a minute, the fantasy frightened her, but ultimately, this fear saved her from feeling alone.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-grosz/for-a-minute-the-fantasy-frightened-her-but-ultimately-this-fear/)

[Stephen Grosz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-grosz/)

> [“In trying so hard to be different from our parents, we're actually doing much the same thing -- doling out empty praise the way…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-grosz/in-trying-so-hard-to-be-different-from-our-parents-we-re-actually/)

[Stephen Grosz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-grosz/)

> [“i knew tht we all have the capacity to act in self-destructive ways, nevertheless i had a kind of faith that the desire to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-grosz/i-knew-tht-we-all-have-the-capacity-to-act-in-self-destructive-ways/)

[Stephen Grosz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-grosz/)

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