--- title: "1 Pain Gift Quotes By Sue Miller" description: "1 Pain Gift quotes by Sue Miller. Plus more from Sue Miller and more Pain Gift sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/7c4/sue-miller-18553_cry_but-pain-may-be-a-gift-to-us-remember-af_705915.png" --- > [But pain may be a gift to us. Remember, after all, that pain is one of the ways we register in memory the things that vanish, that are taken away. We fix them in our minds forever by yearning, by…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/but-pain-may-be-a-gift-to-us-remember-after-all-that-pain-is-one-of/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/7c4/sue-miller-18553_cry_but-pain-may-be-a-gift-to-us-remember-af_705915.png) ## More by Sue Miller > [It seems we need someone to know us as we are - with all we have done - and forgive us. We need to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/it-seems-we-need-someone-to-know-us-as-we-are-with-all-we-have-done/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) > [And what if we’d been utterly open? Made jokes about the first wife? What if we’d been that kind of family? Well, I would…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/and-what-if-we-d-been-utterly-open-made-jokes-about-the-first-wife/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) > [Kids need to see that Jesus is the best thing that ever happened to us. And they need to know it can happen to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/kids-need-to-see-that-jesus-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) > [ “I tried to talk about it to Lily, to make her see that for once, I'd earned a feeling. \[p. 174\]” ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/i-tried-to-talk-about-it-to-lily-to-make-her-see-that-for-once-i-d/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) > [“I was recalling that other world in which it had thrilled me, in a way, the surprise of thinking that I could be a…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/i-was-recalling-that-other-world-in-which-it-had-thrilled-me-in-a-way/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) > [“Now he turned the radio on to the news. As we did our separate chores, we listened and commented idly to each other on…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/now-he-turned-the-radio-on-to-the-news-as-we-did-our-separate-chores/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) > [I felt the kind of desperation, I think, that cancels the possibility of empathy...that makes you unkind.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/i-felt-the-kind-of-desperation-i-think-that-cancels-the-possibility/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) > [But pain may be a gift to us. Remember, after all, that pain is one of the ways we register in memory the things…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/but-pain-may-be-a-gift-to-us-remember-after-all-that-pain-is-one-of/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) > [“And then heard Detective Ryan’s pleased voice talking about Eli, about killers who’ve gone free: “They have to tell,” he’d said Well, apparently so.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/and-then-heard-detective-ryan-s-pleased-voice-talking-about-eli-about/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) > [“But even then I knew how it was going to be, I could feel the coming silence in the long, poisonous pauses that expanded…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/but-even-then-i-knew-how-it-was-going-to-be-i-could-feel-the-coming/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) > [“Doggone, I never thought I’d lose my mind.” I was startled at the time to realize this – that he had thought about it.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/doggone-i-never-thought-i-d-lose-my-mind-i-was-startled-at-the-time/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) > [“The abundance of ordinary things, their convenient arrangement here, seemed for the moment a personal gift to me. As did my ability to notice…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/the-abundance-of-ordinary-things-their-convenient-arrangement-here/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) > [“You might have thought I’d worry about him, about causing him pain or at least embarrassment. I simply didn’t. I felt the kind of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/you-might-have-thought-i-d-worry-about-him-about-causing-him-pain-or/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) > [“My sister and I were the ones in the family who had seen this as necessary; neither of my brothers felt there was a…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/my-sister-and-i-were-the-ones-in-the-family-who-had-seen-this-as/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) > [“...the words make our silences easier--they're the current that runs under them.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sue-miller/the-words-make-our-silences-easier-they-re-the-current-that-runs/) [Sue Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sue-miller/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/pain-gift/sue-miller/#itemlist", "name": "1 Pain Gift Quotes By Sue Miller", "numberOfItems": 1, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "But pain may be a gift to us. 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