--- title: "13 Needs Quotes By Gary Chapman" description: "13 Needs quotes by Gary Chapman. Plus more from Gary Chapman and more Needs sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0e6/gary-chapman-1325_basic-needs_over-the-long-haul-many-of-those-people_2162059.jpg" --- > [ Over the long haul, many of those people \[in a difficult marriage\] will begin to reciprocate, because you are meeting a basic… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/over-the-long-haul-many-of-those-people-in-a-difficult-marriage-will/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0e6/gary-chapman-1325_basic-needs_over-the-long-haul-many-of-those-people_2162059.jpg) > [Gifts need not be expensive; after all, "it's the thuoght that counts." But I remind you, it is not the thought left…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/gifts-need-not-be-expensive-after-all-it-s-the-thuoght-that-counts/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a03/gary-chapman-1325_communicate_gifts-need-not-be-expensive-after-all-it_2446400.png) > [We all desperately need love. If a spouse in a difficult marriage will learn the love language of that spouse, and they…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/we-all-desperately-need-love-if-a-spouse-in-a-difficult-marriage-will/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8a6/gary-chapman-1325_consistently_we-all-desperately-need-love-if-a-spouse_212869.png) > [The in-love experience does not focus on our own growth or on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/the-in-love-experience-does-not-focus-on-our-own-growth-or-on-the/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/256/gary-chapman-1325_development_the-in-love-experience-does-not-focus-on_3085240.jpg) > [People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/people-tend-to-criticize-their-spouse-most-loudly-in-the-area-where/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/926/gary-chapman-1325_criticism_people-tend-to-criticize-their-spouse-mo_2947565.png) > [If we are to develop an intimate relationship, we need to know each other's desires. If we wish to love each other,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/if-we-are-to-develop-an-intimate-relationship-we-need-to-know-each/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/dd8/gary-chapman-1325_desire_if-we-are-to-develop-an-intimate-relatio_1011428.png) > [Real love" - "This kind of love is emotional in nature but not obsessional. It is a love that unites reason and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/real-love-this-kind-of-love-is-emotional-in-nature-but-not/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/2a6/gary-chapman-1325_discipline_real-love-this-kind-of-love-is-emotional_477736.png) > [..there is hope. That's the marvelous thing about being human. We can change our future. We need not be enslaved by the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/there-is-hope-that-s-the-marvelous-thing-about-being-human-we-can/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/651/gary-chapman-1325_being-human_there-is-hope-that-s-the-marvelous-thing_1819382.png) > [Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/our-most-basic-emotional-need-is-not-to-fall-in-love-but-to-be-2/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9b7/gary-chapman-1325_choices_our-most-basic-emotional-need-is-not-to_1610302.png) > [Physician Albert Scheweitzer said. " We are all so much together, but we are all dying of loneliness." Professor Leo Buscaglia notes,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/physician-albert-scheweitzer-said-we-are-all-so-much-together-but-we/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/86b/gary-chapman-1325_born_physician-albert-scheweitzer-said-we-are_1775978.jpg) > [Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/sometimes-when-the-spouse-is-really-the-culprit-it-is-hard-to-admit/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/689/gary-chapman-1325_admitting_sometimes-when-the-spouse-is-really-the_126632.jpg) > [Once you identify and learn to speak your spouse’s primary love language, I believe that you will have discovered the key to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/once-you-identify-and-learn-to-speak-your-spouse-s-primary-love/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/dc9/gary-chapman-1325_alive_once-you-identify-and-learn-to-speak-you_2906059.jpg) > [At the heart of mankind's existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by another. Marriage is designed to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/at-the-heart-of-mankind-s-existence-is-the-desire-to-be-intimate-and/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fb5/gary-chapman-1325_and-love_at-the-heart-of-mankind-s-existence-is-t_987060.jpg) ## Other authors on Needs ## More by Gary Chapman > [Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience springtime, with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/marriages-are-always-moving-from-one-season-to-another-sometimes-we/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/something-in-our-nature-cries-out-to-be-loved-by-another-isolation-is/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/most-of-us-have-more-potential-than-we-will-ever-develop-what-holds/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the den and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/on-the-other-hand-if-i-walk-in-the-house-i-don-t-even-bother-to-find/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [“I look for three things in hiring people. The first is personal integrity, the second is intelligence, and the third is a high energy…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/i-look-for-three-things-in-hiring-people-the-first-is-personal/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/love-is-always-freely-given-love-cannot-be-demanded-we-can-request/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [“Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/psychologist-william-james-said-that-possibly-the-deepest-human-need/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [I think that in today's world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/i-think-that-in-today-s-world-by-nature-we-are-all-self-centered-and/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you are going…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/sometimes-when-the-spouse-is-really-the-culprit-it-is-hard-to-admit/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide me with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/there-is-a-third-truth-which-only-the-mature-lover-will-be-able-to/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [ The getting out part \[of advise\] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/the-getting-out-part-of-advise-may-well-be-true-because-if-you-have/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [ I wrote this book \[ Desperate Marriages\] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage.… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/i-wrote-this-book-desperate-marriages-because-of-my-own-marriage-my/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [As a senior in high school, I had a strong sense that God wanted me in some kind of ministry.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/as-a-senior-in-high-school-i-had-a-strong-sense-that-god-wanted-me-in/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [We all desperately need love. If a spouse in a difficult marriage will learn the love language of that spouse, and they will, with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/we-all-desperately-need-love-if-a-spouse-in-a-difficult-marriage-will/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [“If acts of service do not come naturally for you, it is still a love language worth acquiring. It is a way of expressing…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/if-acts-of-service-do-not-come-naturally-for-you-it-is-still-a-love/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/needs/gary-chapman/#itemlist", "name": "13 Needs Quotes By Gary Chapman", "numberOfItems": 13, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "Over the long haul, many of those people [in a difficult marriage] will begin to reciprocate, because you are meeting a basic need in their life, the need for love, and they know they don't deserve love many times.", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Gary Chapman" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/over-the-long-haul-many-of-those-people-in-a-difficult-marriage-will/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0e6/gary-chapman-1325_basic-needs_over-the-long-haul-many-of-those-people_2162059.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0e6/gary-chapman-1325_basic-needs_over-the-long-haul-many-of-those-people_2162059.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0e6/gary-chapman-1325_basic-needs_over-the-long-haul-many-of-those-people_2162059.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“Over the long haul, many of those people [in a difficult marriage] will begin to reciprocate, because you…” — Gary Chapman", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "Gifts need not be expensive; after all, \"it's the thuoght that counts.\" But I remind you, it is not the thought left in your head that counts; it is the gift that came out of the thought that communicates emotional love.", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Gary Chapman" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/gifts-need-not-be-expensive-after-all-it-s-the-thuoght-that-counts/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a03/gary-chapman-1325_communicate_gifts-need-not-be-expensive-after-all-it_2446400.png", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a03/gary-chapman-1325_communicate_gifts-need-not-be-expensive-after-all-it_2446400.png", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a03/gary-chapman-1325_communicate_gifts-need-not-be-expensive-after-all-it_2446400.png", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“Gifts need not be expensive; after all, \"it's the thuoght that counts.\" But I remind you, it is not the…” — Gary Chapman", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 3, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "We all desperately need love. 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