--- title: "3 Narcissist Quotes By Sandy Hotchkiss" description: "3 Narcissist quotes by Sandy Hotchkiss. Plus more from Sandy Hotchkiss and more Narcissist sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fe8/sandy-hotchkiss-51597_bad-behavior_some-narcissistic-leaders-are-models-of_1508114.jpg" --- > [“Some narcissistic leaders are models of icy reserve while others have the emotional self-control of a two-year-old. … the essential narcissistic defect…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sandy-hotchkiss/some-narcissistic-leaders-are-models-of-icy-reserve-while-others-have/) [Sandy Hotchkiss](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sandy-hotchkiss/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fe8/sandy-hotchkiss-51597_bad-behavior_some-narcissistic-leaders-are-models-of_1508114.jpg) > [“It is not worthiness the Narcissist feels when he or she communicates “I deserve.” Narcissistic entitlement has nothing to do with genuine…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sandy-hotchkiss/it-is-not-worthiness-the-narcissist-feels-when-he-or-she-communicates/) [Sandy Hotchkiss](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sandy-hotchkiss/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/2bc/sandy-hotchkiss-51597_fantasy-world_it-is-not-worthiness-the-narcissist-feel_2000449.jpg) > [“We all view life through the lens of these experiences, but the Narcissist has something more, not just a lens but a…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sandy-hotchkiss/we-all-view-life-through-the-lens-of-these-experiences-but-the/) [Sandy Hotchkiss](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sandy-hotchkiss/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/cae/sandy-hotchkiss-51597_life_we-all-view-life-through-the-lens-of-the_2724704.jpg) ## Other authors on Narcissist - [Shahida Arabi 11 quotes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/narcissist/shahida-arabi/) - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b013/author-jeffrey-kluger-48483.jpg) Jeffrey Kluger 6 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/narcissist/jeffrey-kluger/) - [shannon l. alder 5 quotes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/narcissist/shannon-l-alder/) - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b010/author-h-john-poole-39881.jpg) Sam Vaknin 5 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/narcissist/sam-vaknin/) ## More by Sandy Hotchkiss > [“If you find that you are frequently doing battle with or feeling seduced by such people, look to see what old problems you are…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sandy-hotchkiss/if-you-find-that-you-are-frequently-doing-battle-with-or-feeling/) [Sandy Hotchkiss](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sandy-hotchkiss/) > [“Some of these arrangements involve an exhibitionist Narcissist and a partner who is “in the closet.” The closet Narcissist is an unassuming type who…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sandy-hotchkiss/some-of-these-arrangements-involve-an-exhibitionist-narcissist-and-a/) [Sandy Hotchkiss](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sandy-hotchkiss/) > [“The narcissistic love match is inherently unstable. Any intrusion of reality can destabilize the relationship, leading to chronic or intermittent conflict, misery, trips to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sandy-hotchkiss/the-narcissistic-love-match-is-inherently-unstable-any-intrusion-of/) [Sandy Hotchkiss](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sandy-hotchkiss/) > [“Some narcissistic leaders are models of icy reserve while others have the emotional self-control of a two-year-old. … the essential narcissistic defect is not…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sandy-hotchkiss/some-narcissistic-leaders-are-models-of-icy-reserve-while-others-have/) [Sandy Hotchkiss](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sandy-hotchkiss/) > [“It is not worthiness the Narcissist feels when he or she communicates “I deserve.” Narcissistic entitlement has nothing to do with genuine self-esteem, which…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sandy-hotchkiss/it-is-not-worthiness-the-narcissist-feels-when-he-or-she-communicates/) [Sandy Hotchkiss](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sandy-hotchkiss/) > [“But it is the nature of narcissistic entitlement to see the situation from only one very subjective point of view that says “My feelings…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sandy-hotchkiss/but-it-is-the-nature-of-narcissistic-entitlement-to-see-the-situation/) [Sandy Hotchkiss](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sandy-hotchkiss/) > [“We all view life through the lens of these experiences, but the Narcissist has something more, not just a lens but a prism that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sandy-hotchkiss/we-all-view-life-through-the-lens-of-these-experiences-but-the/) [Sandy Hotchkiss](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sandy-hotchkiss/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/narcissist/sandy-hotchkiss/#itemlist", "name": "3 Narcissist Quotes By Sandy Hotchkiss", "numberOfItems": 3, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“Some narcissistic leaders are models of icy reserve while others have the emotional self-control of a two-year-old. … the essential narcissistic defect is not something people generally outgrow. 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