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> [“If your mother lived your life as though it were her own-never allowing you a moment of stress or frustration, routinely sleeping in your bed when you had a bad dream, never setting limits or establishing boundaries, seldom or never…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/victoria-secunda/if-your-mother-lived-your-life-as-though-it-were-her-own-never/)

[Victoria Secunda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/victoria-secunda/)

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## More by Victoria Secunda

> [“If your mother lived your life as though it were her own-never allowing you a moment of stress or frustration, routinely sleeping in your…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/victoria-secunda/if-your-mother-lived-your-life-as-though-it-were-her-own-never/)

[Victoria Secunda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/victoria-secunda/)

> [“If it is your fault that your mother is miserable, it becomes a potentially fixable affront. Taking blame means that at least the hope…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/victoria-secunda/if-it-is-your-fault-that-your-mother-is-miserable-it-becomes-a/)

[Victoria Secunda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/victoria-secunda/)

> [To have a loving relationship with a sister is not simply to have a buddy or confident - it is to have a soulmate…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/victoria-secunda/to-have-a-loving-relationship-with-a-sister-is-not-simply-to-have-a/)

[Victoria Secunda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/victoria-secunda/)

> [For even the most nurturing, devoted, loving stepfather has, with a stepdaughter, an uphill battle. The relationship can test the mettle of the sturdiest…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/victoria-secunda/for-even-the-most-nurturing-devoted-loving-stepfather-has-with-a/)

[Victoria Secunda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/victoria-secunda/)

> [“Another reason it's dangerous to acknowledge that you were unloved is that it implies the possibility that your mother may have been right-you are…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/victoria-secunda/another-reason-it-s-dangerous-to-acknowledge-that-you-were-unloved-is/)

[Victoria Secunda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/victoria-secunda/)

> [A daughter is a mother's gender partner, her closest ally in the family confederacy, an extension of her self. And mothers are their daughters'…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/victoria-secunda/a-daughter-is-a-mother-s-gender-partner-her-closest-ally-in-the/)

[Victoria Secunda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/victoria-secunda/)

> [A daughter needs a loving, available, predictable father or father figure who can be counted on, whether divorced or at home. She needs his…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/victoria-secunda/a-daughter-needs-a-loving-available-predictable-father-or-father/)

[Victoria Secunda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/victoria-secunda/)

> [Of all the haunting moments of motherhood, few rank with hearing your own words come out of your daughter's mouth.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/victoria-secunda/of-all-the-haunting-moments-of-motherhood-few-rank-with-hearing-your/)

[Victoria Secunda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/victoria-secunda/)

> [“Many daughters live out their lives avoiding or abiding or arguing with their mothers-burying the long-ago injury or insult or childhood deprivation under a…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/victoria-secunda/many-daughters-live-out-their-lives-avoiding-or-abiding-or-arguing/)

[Victoria Secunda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/victoria-secunda/)

> [Most fathers don't see the war within the daughter, her struggles with conflicting images of the idealized and flawed father, her temptation both to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/victoria-secunda/most-fathers-don-t-see-the-war-within-the-daughter-her-struggles-with/)

[Victoria Secunda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/victoria-secunda/)

> [Unlike the mother-son relationship, a daughter's relationship with her mother is something akin to bungee diving. She can stake her claim in the outside…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/victoria-secunda/unlike-the-mother-son-relationship-a-daughter-s-relationship-with-her/)

[Victoria Secunda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/victoria-secunda/)

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