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> [Thomas Gordon, founder of P.E.T. (Parent Effectiveness Training), observed that when children are behaving in a way that interferes with your ability to meet your needs, shouting direct orders to them doesn't work very well. So, he advised sending I…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ben-yagoda/thomas-gordon-founder-of-p-e-t-parent-effectiveness-training-observed/)

[Ben Yagoda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ben-yagoda/)

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## More by Ben Yagoda

> [“One has the sense of her deciding roughly at Page 2 whether or not a book is worthy; reading the rest of it to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ben-yagoda/one-has-the-sense-of-her-deciding-roughly-at-page-2-whether-or-not-a/)

[Ben Yagoda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ben-yagoda/)

> [“designer can inject the most artistic flair. The word “ampersand” didn’t come into being until the nineteenth century. At that time & was customarily…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ben-yagoda/designer-can-inject-the-most-artistic-flair-the-word-ampersand-didn-t/)

[Ben Yagoda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ben-yagoda/)

> [“‎Theorists of journalism have long noted parallels to Heisenberg's uncertainty principle in physics: by reporting on something, one subtly but irrevocably changes it.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ben-yagoda/theorists-of-journalism-have-long-noted-parallels-to-heisenberg-s/)

[Ben Yagoda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ben-yagoda/)

> [“Memoir today is like one big game of misery poker: The more outlandish, outrageous, or just plain out-there the recounted life, the more likely…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ben-yagoda/memoir-today-is-like-one-big-game-of-misery-poker-the-more-outlandish/)

[Ben Yagoda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ben-yagoda/)

> [Thomas Gordon, founder of P.E.T. (Parent Effectiveness Training), observed that when children are behaving in a way that interferes with your ability to meet…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ben-yagoda/thomas-gordon-founder-of-p-e-t-parent-effectiveness-training-observed/)

[Ben Yagoda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ben-yagoda/)

> [All good writers are sensitive to clichés and endeavor to avoid them](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ben-yagoda/all-good-writers-are-sensitive-to-clich-s-and-endeavor-to-avoid-them/)

[Ben Yagoda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ben-yagoda/)

> [Quotes are like cayenne pepper or some other strong spice: a little goes a long way, and too much is a disaster.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ben-yagoda/quotes-are-like-cayenne-pepper-or-some-other-strong-spice-a-little/)

[Ben Yagoda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ben-yagoda/)

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