--- title: "3 Masculinity Quotes By Mitch Kellaway" description: "3 Masculinity quotes by Mitch Kellaway. Plus more from Mitch Kellaway and more Masculinity sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/300/mitch-kellaway-52397_masculinity_the-term-ftm-butch-border-war-just-sound_276237.jpg" --- > [“The term “FTM-Butch Border War” just sounds like an alien land of yore. How is it that the gravitational pull of my…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mitch-kellaway/the-term-ftm-butch-border-war-just-sounds-like-an-alien-land-of-yore/) [Mitch Kellaway](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mitch-kellaway/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/300/mitch-kellaway-52397_masculinity_the-term-ftm-butch-border-war-just-sound_276237.jpg) > [ “\["Manning Up"'s\] essays definitely nuance the idea of transitioning into a “shared manhood” (much like feminists of color have complicated the idea… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mitch-kellaway/manning-up-s-essays-definitely-nuance-the-idea-of-transitioning-into/) [Mitch Kellaway](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mitch-kellaway/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/118/mitch-kellaway-52397_feminism_manning-up-s-essays-definitely-nuance-th_1256955.jpg) > [“How does ANY male-identified person know he is a man? And does my answer really diverge greatly from how many men, trans…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mitch-kellaway/how-does-any-male-identified-person-know-he-is-a-man-and-does-my/) [Mitch Kellaway](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mitch-kellaway/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/66f/mitch-kellaway-52397_becoming-a-man_how-does-any-male-identified-person-know_2735710.jpg) ## Other authors on Masculinity - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b009/author-frank-pittman-35815.jpg) Frank Pittman 16 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/masculinity/frank-pittman/) - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b004/author-augustine-birrell-15665.jpg) Stephen Marche 7 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/masculinity/stephen-marche/) - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b005/author-bell-hooks-16868.jpg) Bell Hooks 7 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/masculinity/bell-hooks/) - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b006/author-chris-terrio-23606.jpg) Jack Donovan 6 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/masculinity/jack-donovan/) ## More by Mitch Kellaway > [“The term “FTM-Butch Border War” just sounds like an alien land of yore. How is it that the gravitational pull of my beard and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mitch-kellaway/the-term-ftm-butch-border-war-just-sounds-like-an-alien-land-of-yore/) [Mitch Kellaway](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mitch-kellaway/) > [“Books were irreplaceable to me as a teenage trans person trying to figure out my identity. I bought or borrowed every one I could…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mitch-kellaway/books-were-irreplaceable-to-me-as-a-teenage-trans-person-trying-to/) [Mitch Kellaway](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mitch-kellaway/) > [“We’re at this really unique time, I think, in trans representation in popular culture where homelessness, depression, mental health issues, instability-in-general are still so…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mitch-kellaway/we-re-at-this-really-unique-time-i-think-in-trans-representation-in/) [Mitch Kellaway](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mitch-kellaway/) > [ “\["Manning Up"'s\] essays definitely nuance the idea of transitioning into a “shared manhood” (much like feminists of color have complicated the idea of “shared… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mitch-kellaway/manning-up-s-essays-definitely-nuance-the-idea-of-transitioning-into/) [Mitch Kellaway](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mitch-kellaway/) > [ “That night I looked Stephanie \[Burt\] up online and started reading more about her work...I kept encountering a striking factoid...: she’s often cited as… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mitch-kellaway/that-night-i-looked-stephanie-burt-up-online-and-started-reading-more/) [Mitch Kellaway](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mitch-kellaway/) > [“When trying to comprehend what is happening to, and through, oneself, why not question the narratives one has been handed to make sense with?…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mitch-kellaway/when-trying-to-comprehend-what-is-happening-to-and-through-oneself/) [Mitch Kellaway](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mitch-kellaway/) > [“How does ANY male-identified person know he is a man? And does my answer really diverge greatly from how many men, trans or cisgender,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mitch-kellaway/how-does-any-male-identified-person-know-he-is-a-man-and-does-my/) [Mitch Kellaway](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mitch-kellaway/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/masculinity/mitch-kellaway/#itemlist", "name": "3 Masculinity Quotes By Mitch Kellaway", "numberOfItems": 3, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“The term “FTM-Butch Border War” just sounds like an alien land of yore. How is it that the gravitational pull of my beard and low-voice should hold [my lesbian friend's] masculinity in deferential orbit? That when standing side-by-side we are supposedly read in comparison, rendering her unalterably more feminine—shorthand, in patriarchal societies, for “lesser than”? 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And my manhood was ultimately achieved through what could be considered rites of passage — which is to say a similar structure to communal cultural tales of how one achieves cisgender manhood. It’s simply some details that vary. I do see one key difference in how all this plays out, however: Trans men make this invisible process disconcertingly visible by flipping the variables. While a cisgender man may be born with certain inherent potentials to physically embody a manhood that others will acknowledge socially, he’s not necessarily imbued with the demanding drive, the internal compass, the awareness of the systems and tropes he’s drawing on, and the deep gratitude concerning the specific man he’ll be. It’s quite possible to reach cisgender manhood externally (for instance, by reaching a certain age or displaying changes in voice, facial hair, etc.) long before one reaches an internal sense of his own unique self — and, further, before one reaches a sense of how hard he’ll fight to be that self, no matter the costs or resistance. 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