--- title: "8 Marriage Thinking Quotes by 5 authors" description: "Browse 8 Marriage Thinking quotes by 5 authors. Discover the best Marriage Thinking sayings and thoughts." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e0c/carolyn-hax-9229_advice_i-actually-recommend-as-little-actual-co_19457.png" --- > [I actually recommend as little actual counting as possible in a life partnership. But, when there's a sense of injustice brewing between…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-hax/i-actually-recommend-as-little-actual-counting-as-possible-in-a-life/) [Carolyn Hax](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-hax/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e0c/carolyn-hax-9229_advice_i-actually-recommend-as-little-actual-co_19457.png) > [Neither of us entered marriage thinking it wouldn't be a strain. Life has strains in it, and he's the person I want…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/patricia-arquette/neither-of-us-entered-marriage-thinking-it-wouldn-t-be-a-strain-life/) [Patricia Arquette](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/patricia-arquette/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/bb6/patricia-arquette-5777_fitness_neither-of-us-entered-marriage-thinking_236680.jpg) > [“The question I've asked more often during our marriage, if not out loud, if not to the person who could answer. I…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gillian-flynn/the-question-i-ve-asked-more-often-during-our-marriage-if-not-out/) [Gillian Flynn](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gillian-flynn/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4bf/gillian-flynn-316_asked_the-question-i-ve-asked-more-often-durin_417020.jpg) > [The question I've asked more often during our marriage, if not out loud, if not to the person who could answer. I…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gillian-flynn/the-question-i-ve-asked-more-often-during-our-marriage-if-not-out-2/) [Gillian Flynn](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gillian-flynn/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8d8/gillian-flynn-316_answers_the-question-i-ve-asked-more-often-durin_615736.jpg) > [“I think of that, too: her mind. Her brain, all those coils, and her thoughts shuttling through those coils like fast, frantic…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gillian-flynn/i-think-of-that-too-her-mind-her-brain-all-those-coils-and-her/) [Gillian Flynn](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gillian-flynn/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/929/gillian-flynn-316_marriage_i-think-of-that-too-her-mind-her-brain-a_1503384.jpg) > [The secret of marriage is thinking that your partner is better than yourself.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/molly-peacock/the-secret-of-marriage-is-thinking-that-your-partner-is-better-than/) [Molly Peacock](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/molly-peacock/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/183/molly-peacock-46158_marriage_the-secret-of-marriage-is-thinking-that_1794644.jpg) > [People told me it was a mistake to marry so young but you can't go into a marriage thinking that because the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/judy-norton/people-told-me-it-was-a-mistake-to-marry-so-young-but-you-can-t-go/) [Judy Norton](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/judy-norton/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3df/judy-norton-19514_commitment_people-told-me-it-was-a-mistake-to-marry_2178379.jpg) > [“What are you thinking, Amy? The question I’ve asked most often during our marriage, if not out loud, if not to the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gillian-flynn/what-are-you-thinking-amy-the-question-i-ve-asked-most-often-during/) [Gillian Flynn](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gillian-flynn/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/58d/gillian-flynn-316_asked_what-are-you-thinking-amy-the-question-i_2851376.jpg) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/marriage-thinking/#itemlist", "name": "Marriage Thinking Quotes", "numberOfItems": 8, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "I actually recommend as little actual counting as possible in a life partnership. But, when there's a sense of injustice brewing between you, some counting is inevitable, and so my advice is to count using as broad a scope as possible. 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