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> [“A marriage which does not constantly crucify its own selfishness and self-sufficiency, which does not ‘die to itself’ that it may point beyond itself, is not a Christian marriage. The real sin of marriage today is not adultery or lack…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/a-marriage-which-does-not-constantly-crucify-its-own-selfishness-and/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

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## More by Alexander Schmemann

> [“On one side it seems there is faith in a Creator-God - and at the same time, the rejection of his creation; and on…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/on-one-side-it-seems-there-is-faith-in-a-creator-god-and-at-the-same/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

> [“Christian mission is not to preach Christ, but to be Christians in life. There”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/christian-mission-is-not-to-preach-christ-but-to-be-christians-in/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

> [“In the Orthodox ecclesial experience and tradition a sacrament is understood primarily as a revelation of the genuine nature of creation, of the world,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/in-the-orthodox-ecclesial-experience-and-tradition-a-sacrament-is/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

> [ “To be more precise... death is \[contrary to\] God, and if death is natural, if it is the ultimate truth about life and about… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/to-be-more-precise-death-is-contrary-to-god-and-if-death-is-natural/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

> [In the process of replacing the old religions, Christianity became a religion.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/in-the-process-of-replacing-the-old-religions-christianity-became-a/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

> [ “The additional problem with all these proofs \[of the immortality of the soul\] is that in their attempt to affirm the existence of another… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/the-additional-problem-with-all-these-proofs-of-the-immortality-of/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

> [“To live in the world as if there were no God ! "-but hon esty to the Gospel, to the whole Christian tradition, to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/to-live-in-the-world-as-if-there-were-no-god-but-hon-esty-to-the/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

> [“This world rejected Christ, refused to see in Him its own life and fulfillment. And since it has no other life but Christ, by…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/this-world-rejected-christ-refused-to-see-in-him-its-own-life-and/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

> [Love is the essence of the holiness of the Church.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/love-is-the-essence-of-the-holiness-of-the-church/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

> [Man is a hungry being. But he is hungry for God. Behind all the hunger of our life is God. All desire is finally…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/man-is-a-hungry-being-but-he-is-hungry-for-god-behind-all-the-hunger/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

> [It seems to me that any ideology is bad because it is inevitably reductive and identifies other ideologies as evil, and itself with truth,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/it-seems-to-me-that-any-ideology-is-bad-because-it-is-inevitably/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

> [“The Purpose of the Eucharist lies not in the change of the bread and wine, but in the partaking of Christ, who has become…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/the-purpose-of-the-eucharist-lies-not-in-the-change-of-the-bread-and/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

> [We should have understood long ago that there is, in this world, religion without God, religion as a center of all idols that possess…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/we-should-have-understood-long-ago-that-there-is-in-this-world/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

> [“Thus the whole death is not the biological phenomenon of death but the spiritual reality whose "sting... is sin" (1 Cor. 15:56) - the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/thus-the-whole-death-is-not-the-biological-phenomenon-of-death-but/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

> [“Our modern theology, which in many ways has ceased to be personal, i.e. centered on the Christian experience of "person," nevertheless - and maybe…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexander-schmemann/our-modern-theology-which-in-many-ways-has-ceased-to-be-personal-i-e/)

[Alexander Schmemann](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-schmemann/)

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