--- title: "13 Love Primarily Quotes by 6 authors" description: "Browse 13 Love Primarily quotes by 6 authors. Discover the best Love Primarily sayings and thoughts." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d07/anonymous-1_fall-out-of-love_falling-out-of-love-is-primarily-a-matte_1530360.jpg" --- > [Falling out of love is primarily a matter of forgetting how charming someone is](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/falling-out-of-love-is-primarily-a-matter-of-forgetting-how-charming/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d07/anonymous-1_fall-out-of-love_falling-out-of-love-is-primarily-a-matte_1530360.jpg) > [I believe love is primarily a choice and only sometimes a feeling. If you want to feel love, choose to love and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/i-believe-love-is-primarily-a-choice-and-only-sometimes-a-feeling-if/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/bfe/anonymous-1_love_i-believe-love-is-primarily-a-choice-and_1558285.jpg) > [“Love is primarily manifested through action. Love is something you do.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ben-young/love-is-primarily-manifested-through-action-love-is-something-you-do/) [Ben Young](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ben-young/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/33f/ben-young-54721_action-love_love-is-primarily-manifested-through-act_3001736.jpg) > [Love is primarily giving. It’s an action that leads to a feeling, not a feeling first.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/timothy-keller/love-is-primarily-giving-it-s-an-action-that-leads-to-a-feeling-not-a/) [Timothy Keller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/timothy-keller/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/518/timothy-keller-240_action_love-is-primarily-giving-it-s-an-action_976963.png) > [Most people see the problem of love primarily as that of being loved, rather than that of loving, of one's capacity to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/erich-fromm/most-people-see-the-problem-of-love-primarily-as-that-of-being-loved/) [Erich Fromm](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/erich-fromm/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d7f/erich-fromm-367_art-of-loving_most-people-see-the-problem-of-love-prim_879176.jpg) > [Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an ordination of character which determines the relatedness…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/erich-fromm/love-is-not-primarily-a-relationship-to-a-specific-person-it-is-an-2/) [Erich Fromm](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/erich-fromm/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f16/erich-fromm-367_attitude_love-is-not-primarily-a-relationship-to_1006107.jpg) > [Love is not primarily a relationship only to a specific person, it is an attitude, an orientation of character which determines the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/love-is-not-primarily-a-relationship-only-to-a-specific-person-it-is/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a84/anonymous-1_love_love-is-not-primarily-a-relationship-onl_1325293.jpg) > [“Love is an activity, not a passive affect; it is a “standing in,” not a “falling for.” In the most general way,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/erich-fromm/love-is-an-activity-not-a-passive-affect-it-is-a-standing-in-not-a/) [Erich Fromm](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/erich-fromm/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0b1/erich-fromm-367_love_love-is-an-activity-not-a-passive-affect_311304.jpg) > [Love for yourself, love for the planet, love for each other. Love primarily for God - your number one relationship in life,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wayne-dyer/love-for-yourself-love-for-the-planet-love-for-each-other-love/) [Wayne Dyer](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wayne-dyer/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/bbe/wayne-dyer-158_connected_love-for-yourself-love-for-the-planet-lo_1014794.png) > [“Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an orientation of character which determines the relatedness…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/erich-fromm/love-is-not-primarily-a-relationship-to-a-specific-person-it-is-an/) [Erich Fromm](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/erich-fromm/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ee9/erich-fromm-367_1956_love-is-not-primarily-a-relationship-to_490257.jpg) > [“First we must understand that all of the world's deceptions flow from the belief that love is primarily for the fulfillment and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/joshua-harris/first-we-must-understand-that-all-of-the-world-s-deceptions-flow-from/) [Joshua Harris](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/joshua-harris/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/27a/joshua-harris-8529_christ_first-we-must-understand-that-all-of-the_1712067.png) > [Envy, jealousy, ambition, any kind of greed are passions; love is an action, the practice of human power, which can be practiced…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/erich-fromm/envy-jealousy-ambition-any-kind-of-greed-are-passions-love-is-an/) [Erich Fromm](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/erich-fromm/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/52c/erich-fromm-367_action_envy-jealousy-ambition-any-kind-of-greed_1436534.jpg) > [“Most people see the problem of love primarily as that of being loved , rather than that of loving , of one's…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/erich-fromm/most-people-see-the-problem-of-love-primarily-as-that-of-being-loved-2/) [Erich Fromm](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/erich-fromm/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/dd2/erich-fromm-367_capacity-to-love_most-people-see-the-problem-of-love-prim_2091927.jpg) ## Top authors on Love Primarily ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/love-primarily/#itemlist", "name": "Love Primarily Quotes", "numberOfItems": 13, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "Falling out of love is primarily a matter of forgetting how charming someone is", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Anonymous" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/falling-out-of-love-is-primarily-a-matter-of-forgetting-how-charming/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d07/anonymous-1_fall-out-of-love_falling-out-of-love-is-primarily-a-matte_1530360.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d07/anonymous-1_fall-out-of-love_falling-out-of-love-is-primarily-a-matte_1530360.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d07/anonymous-1_fall-out-of-love_falling-out-of-love-is-primarily-a-matte_1530360.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“Falling out of love is primarily a matter of forgetting how charming someone is” — Anonymous", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "I believe love is primarily a choice and only sometimes a feeling. 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Love primarily for God - your number one relationship in life, your relationship to your source. Not something external to you, something that you're a part of, that you are connected to - just meditating on that, staying in that place, the place of God realization.", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Wayne Dyer" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wayne-dyer/love-for-yourself-love-for-the-planet-love-for-each-other-love/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/bbe/wayne-dyer-158_connected_love-for-yourself-love-for-the-planet-lo_1014794.png", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/bbe/wayne-dyer-158_connected_love-for-yourself-love-for-the-planet-lo_1014794.png", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/bbe/wayne-dyer-158_connected_love-for-yourself-love-for-the-planet-lo_1014794.png", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“Love for yourself, love for the planet, love for each other. 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The world poisons love by focusing first and foremost on meeting one's own needs. Christ taught that love is not for the fulfillment of the self but for the Glory of God and the food of others. True love is selfless. 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Hence the problem to them is how to be loved, how to be lovable. In pursuit of this aim they follow several paths. One, which is especially used by men, is to be successful, to be as powerful and rich as the social margin of one's position permits. Another, used especially by women, is to make oneself attractive, by cultivating one's body, dress, etc. … Many of the ways to make oneself lovable are the same as those used to make oneself successful, to 'win friends and influence people'. 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