--- title: "8 Love And Safety Quotes by 8 authors" description: "Browse 8 Love And Safety quotes by 8 authors. Discover the best Love And Safety sayings and thoughts." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c53/kirstin-cronn-mills-35387_books_before-i-grad-her-book-and-mine-i-go-sit_446868.jpg" --- > [“Before I grad her book and mine, I go sit next to her on the organ bench and she gives me a…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kirstin-cronn-mills/before-i-grad-her-book-and-mine-i-go-sit-next-to-her-on-the-organ/) [Kirstin Cronn-Mills](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kirstin-cronn-mills/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c53/kirstin-cronn-mills-35387_books_before-i-grad-her-book-and-mine-i-go-sit_446868.jpg) > [“make an agreement to exercise mutual control over each other. The unspoken pact between them is, “It’s my job to make you…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/danny-silk/make-an-agreement-to-exercise-mutual-control-over-each-other-the/) [Danny Silk](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/danny-silk/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/079/danny-silk-19074_boundaries_make-an-agreement-to-exercise-mutual-con_922069.jpg) > [“I thought that nothing enormously bad or good had happened to me during my life. All the normal things had occurred. I…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-zadoorian/i-thought-that-nothing-enormously-bad-or-good-had-happened-to-me/) [Michael Zadoorian](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-zadoorian/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/982/michael-zadoorian-27244_beauty-of-life_i-thought-that-nothing-enormously-bad-or_998538.jpg) > [“If your going to be a jackass then do it outside of your home, as your home is supposed to be a…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lisa-marie-main/if-your-going-to-be-a-jackass-then-do-it-outside-of-your-home-as-your/) [Lisa Marie Main](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lisa-marie-main/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b8b/lisa-marie-main-257133_balance-of-light-and_if-your-going-to-be-a-jackass-then-do-it_1025773.jpg) > [“Almost worse than the sorrow of missing her was the fact that Mom's death had revealed everything to be meaningless. So much…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-perry/almost-worse-than-the-sorrow-of-missing-her-was-the-fact-that-mom-s/) [Sarah Perry](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-perry/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d10/sarah-perry-16794_death_almost-worse-than-the-sorrow-of-missing_1430444.jpg) > [“Incarceration is a sustained, lifetime lynching, meant to discard your soul and make a shell of you in plain life. Make you…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/junauda-petrus/incarceration-is-a-sustained-lifetime-lynching-meant-to-discard-your/) [Junauda Petrus](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/junauda-petrus/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/311/junauda-petrus-140840_crime_incarceration-is-a-sustained-lifetime-ly_1568730.jpg) > [“My whole life I wanted to be normal. Everybody knows there's no such thing as normal. There is no black-and-white definition of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/tori-spelling/my-whole-life-i-wanted-to-be-normal-everybody-knows-there-s-no-such/) [Tori Spelling](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/tori-spelling/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b6d/tori-spelling-7079_hope_my-whole-life-i-wanted-to-be-normal-ever_2154160.jpg) > [“Loretta snuggled deeply into silken furs, trying to escape the persistent hand that shook her shoulder and the voice that called to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/catherine-anderson/loretta-snuggled-deeply-into-silken-furs-trying-to-escape-the/) [Catherine Anderson](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/catherine-anderson/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/95f/catherine-anderson-308_laughter-and-love_loretta-snuggled-deeply-into-silken-furs_3059871.jpg) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/love-and-safety/#itemlist", "name": "Love And Safety Quotes", "numberOfItems": 8, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“Before I grad her book and mine, I go sit next to her on the organ bench and she gives me a big grandma hug - her special version, made from strong arms, old-fashioned perfume, and years of practice. The kind that makes you think you've won the best prize in the world. For love and safety, find your grandma. 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The unspoken pact between them is, “It’s my job to make you happy, and your job to make me happy. And the best way to get you to work on my life is to act miserable. The more miserable I am, the more you will have to try to make me feel better.” Powerless people use various tactics, such as getting upset, withdrawing, nagging, ridiculing, pouting, crying, or getting angry, to pressure, manipulate, and punish one another into keeping this pact. However, this ongoing power play does nothing to make them happy and mitigate their anxiety in the long term. In fact, their anxiety only escalates by continually affirming that they are not actually powerful. Any sense of love and safety they feel by gaining or surrendering control is tenuous and fleeting. A relational bond built on mutual control simply cannot produce anything remotely like safety, love, or trust. It can only produce more fear, pain, distrust, punishment, and misery. 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So much of what I'd thought was true had turned out to be an illusion. I saw people around me living by these illusions— that love and safety could be counted on, that life had meaning and the future could be controlled— and I did not feel that I could ever again share their suspended disbelief. I was swimming against a strong, cold current: I could see them there, playing on a sunny beach, but I couldn't rejoin them. 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Make you into your monster self, the beast that comes out when you are forced to survive in the absence of love and safety. Never mind that most of us come broken and traumatized, we still are no longer worth our own humanity. We are a criminal. We need punishment and to be rehabilitated. We need shame and exclusion. We are not worthy of control of our own lives; we are hopeless and evil. We are not individuals or of a womb or a family. We are not absent from anywhere else; because we are here, we simply non-exist. The world is better without us. In this society we are taught our crimes are the summations of our lives and define the limits of our possibility. 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Everybody knows there's no such thing as normal. There is no black-and-white definition of normal. Normal is subjective. There's only messy, inconsistant, silly, hopeful version of how we feel most at home in our own lives. But when I think about what I have, what I strived to reach my whole life, it's not the biggest or best or easiest or prettiest or most anything. It's not the Manor or the laundry closet. Not the multi-million dollar inheritance or the poorhouse. It's not superstardom or unemployment. It's family and love and safety. It's bravery and hope. It's work and laughter and imperfection. 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A dark face swam above her. Funny, but blinking didn’t bring him into focus. She reached out, curious, then thought better of it. “You will make the honey talk with me? We will make a treaty between us, one with no tiv-ope , writing. You will eat and grow strong, and I will take you to your people.” Honey talk. All lies, according to Hunter. Loretta peered up. She ran her tongue across her lips and tried to swallow. “H-home?” she croaked. “ Huh , yes, Blue Eyes. Home. But you must eat so you can live to go back. And drink. For three days. Until you are strong again.” His fingertips grazed her cheek and trailed lightly into her hair. “Then this Comanche will take you.” “You will?” she rasped. “It is a promise I make. You will eat and drink?” Loretta closed her eyes. She had to be dreaming. But oh, what a lovely dream it was. To go home. To have Hunter volunteer to take her there. No need to worry that his wrath would rain upon her family. “No tricks. You swear it?” “No tricks.” His voice echoed and reechoed inside her head, loud, then like a whisper. She fought to open her eyes. 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