--- title: "4 Liar Quotes By Susan Forward" description: "4 Liar quotes by Susan Forward. Plus more from Susan Forward and more Liar sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f3e/susan-forward-4980_cognitive-dissonance_reality-check-his-lying-is-not-contigent_78365.jpg" --- > [“Reality Check His lying is not contigent on who you are or what you do. His lying is not your fault. Lying…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/reality-check-his-lying-is-not-contigent-on-who-you-are-or-what-you/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f3e/susan-forward-4980_cognitive-dissonance_reality-check-his-lying-is-not-contigent_78365.jpg) > [When your lover is a liar, you and he have a lot in common, you're both lying to you!](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/when-your-lover-is-a-liar-you-and-he-have-a-lot-in-common-you-re-both/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1ae/susan-forward-4980_infidelity_when-your-lover-is-a-liar-you-and-he-hav_455110.jpg) > [“Love is a verb, not a noun. It is active. Love is not just feelings of passion and romance. It is behavior.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/love-is-a-verb-not-a-noun-it-is-active-love-is-not-just-feelings-of-2/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/cd4/susan-forward-4980_active_love-is-a-verb-not-a-noun-it-is-active-l_1329713.jpg) > [“MAKING THE LIE MAKE SENSE: When denial (his or ours) can no longer hold and we finally have to admit to ourselves…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/making-the-lie-make-sense-when-denial-his-or-ours-can-no-longer-hold/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4e4/susan-forward-4980_betrayal_making-the-lie-make-sense-when-denial-hi_2196971.jpg) ## Other authors on Liar - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b006/author-cassandra-clare-21529.jpg) Cassandra Clare 8 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/liar/cassandra-clare/) - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b001/author-nishan-panwar-14.jpg) Nishan Panwar 6 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/liar/nishan-panwar/) - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b024/author-veronica-roth-93385.jpg) Veronica Roth 5 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/liar/veronica-roth/) - [Mark Twain 5 quotes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/liar/mark-twain/) - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b013/author-jodi-picoult-50321.jpg) Jodi Picoult 5 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/liar/jodi-picoult/) - [Jarod Kintz 5 quotes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/liar/jarod-kintz/) - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b008/author-donald-trump-30060.jpg) Donald Trump 5 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/liar/donald-trump/) ## More by Susan Forward > [“Instead of promoting healthy development, they unconsciously undermine it, often with the belief that they are acting in their child’s best interest.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/instead-of-promoting-healthy-development-they-unconsciously-undermine/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) > [Criticism is the fountainhead of control.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/criticism-is-the-fountainhead-of-control/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) > [“It’s amazing how people can change behind closed doors.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/it-s-amazing-how-people-can-change-behind-closed-doors/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) > [“The initial disappointment for the misogynist usually occurs early in the relationship. However, because there is so much excitement and romance going on, the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/the-initial-disappointment-for-the-misogynist-usually-occurs-early-in/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) > [“Reality Check His lying is not contigent on who you are or what you do. His lying is not your fault. Lying is his…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/reality-check-his-lying-is-not-contigent-on-who-you-are-or-what-you/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) > [“Many misogynists use this method of turning the tables to deflect blame from themselves. They may say: "You are too sensitive"; "You're overreacting"; "You…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/many-misogynists-use-this-method-of-turning-the-tables-to-deflect/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) > [“Children expect different things from each parent. Traditionally, the mother is expected to protect and defend the children, while the father is seen as…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/children-expect-different-things-from-each-parent-traditionally-the/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) > [“Our laws and institutions concerning women's rights and male prerogatives are changing, but many men still believe that their masculine image depends on their…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/our-laws-and-institutions-concerning-women-s-rights-and-male/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) > [“As children, because of our dependency, we experience a sense of being powerless in a world of powerful people. If our home environments are…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/as-children-because-of-our-dependency-we-experience-a-sense-of-being/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) > [“Some misogynists do not resort to the obvious cruelty of scare tactics and screamed insults to gain control of their partners. Instead of raising…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/some-misogynists-do-not-resort-to-the-obvious-cruelty-of-scare/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) > [“Children from high-drama households often grow up with the idea that tension is an integral part of love. Therefore, the girl who grows up…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/children-from-high-drama-households-often-grow-up-with-the-idea-that/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) > [“Anger is a normal human emotion and all children experience it to some degree, but many parents have difficulty dealing with it. Often they…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/anger-is-a-normal-human-emotion-and-all-children-experience-it-to/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) > [When your lover is a liar, you and he have a lot in common, you're both lying to you!](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/when-your-lover-is-a-liar-you-and-he-have-a-lot-in-common-you-re-both/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) > [“Women in troubled marriages frequently try to work out their problems through their children. Whether a woman does this through the extremes of overwhelming…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/women-in-troubled-marriages-frequently-try-to-work-out-their-problems/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) > [“Inherent in his fear of this dependency is the equally dreadful fear that she will leave him. His terrors of being alone, of being…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-forward/inherent-in-his-fear-of-this-dependency-is-the-equally-dreadful-fear/) [Susan Forward](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-forward/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/liar/susan-forward/#itemlist", "name": "4 Liar Quotes By Susan Forward", "numberOfItems": 4, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“Reality Check His lying is not contigent on who you are or what you do. His lying is not your fault. 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