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> [“I had to ask myself why I'm continuing to engage in behavior I knew hurt. What was my payoff? Did it confirm my belief I was not enough? Did I think I needed to suffer? Did I think I could…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/i-had-to-ask-myself-why-i-m-continuing-to-engage-in-behavior-i-knew/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

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## More by Paula Heller Garland

> [“I don't know the perfect thing to say when a person is hurting but I do know the last thing they want to hear…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/i-don-t-know-the-perfect-thing-to-say-when-a-person-is-hurting-but-i/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

> [“You must have been the best mother in the world. Have prayed seventeen times a day...just for me. Been the strongest woman on earth.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/you-must-have-been-the-best-mother-in-the-world-have-prayed-seventeen/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

> [“Is there anything you have been putting off until another day? How about today?”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/is-there-anything-you-have-been-putting-off-until-another-day-how/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

> [“The moment I felt my life return was when I took a breath and said to him, "No thank you. Were I as perfect…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/the-moment-i-felt-my-life-return-was-when-i-took-a-breath-and-said-to/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

> [“I lit the candles and said out loud, “what am I waiting on? Someone to sell them in a garage sale for a quarter…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/i-lit-the-candles-and-said-out-loud-what-am-i-waiting-on-someone-to/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

> [“Life became more aligned when I started taking some of the advice I'd been dishing out to my friends.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/life-became-more-aligned-when-i-started-taking-some-of-the-advice-i-d/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

> [“You can't sweep something broken into a bag and call it whole. It takes repair.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/you-can-t-sweep-something-broken-into-a-bag-and-call-it-whole-it/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

> [“If someone in my life could grow with confrontation and feedback, why would I choose to refrain?”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/if-someone-in-my-life-could-grow-with-confrontation-and-feedback-why/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

> [“One of the most positive things that has come of that communication is I have been able to see how much I have grown.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/one-of-the-most-positive-things-that-has-come-of-that-communication/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

> [“So often I speak of “out of the box thinking” and living a “conscious life”; however, not regularly do I meet someone who lives…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/so-often-i-speak-of-out-of-the-box-thinking-and-living-a-conscious/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

> [“What would you change about yourself if you could change anything?”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/what-would-you-change-about-yourself-if-you-could-change-anything/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

> [“Taking a break from digging into your own issues doesn't make you unauthentic. It makes you sane.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/taking-a-break-from-digging-into-your-own-issues-doesn-t-make-you/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

> [“What if you let go of your excuses?”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/what-if-you-let-go-of-your-excuses/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

> [“Change doesn't happen all at one. It's a gradual wearing away of the unconsciousness.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/change-doesn-t-happen-all-at-one-it-s-a-gradual-wearing-away-of-the/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

> [“I had to ask myself why I'm continuing to engage in behavior I knew hurt. What was my payoff? Did it confirm my belief…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paula-heller-garland/i-had-to-ask-myself-why-i-m-continuing-to-engage-in-behavior-i-knew/)

[Paula Heller Garland](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paula-heller-garland/)

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