--- title: "16 Ifs Quotes By Dan Savage" description: "16 Ifs quotes by Dan Savage. Plus more from Dan Savage and more Ifs sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a6b/dan-savage-2880_be-proud_to-be-gay-is-nothing-to-be-proud-of-it-s_3015483.jpg" --- > [To be gay is nothing to be proud of. It's in how you are gay that you have something to be proud…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/to-be-gay-is-nothing-to-be-proud-of-it-s-in-how-you-are-gay-that-you/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a6b/dan-savage-2880_be-proud_to-be-gay-is-nothing-to-be-proud-of-it-s_3015483.jpg) > [Oftentimes, when people write me 4,000-word letters, I write them back and tell them if their problem's that complicated, they probably need…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/oftentimes-when-people-write-me-4-000-word-letters-i-write-them-back/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/521/dan-savage-2880_complicated_oftentimes-when-people-write-me-4-000-wo_902217.jpg) > [Is it adultery if I'm committing it at one end of a guy and he's committing it at the other end of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/is-it-adultery-if-i-m-committing-it-at-one-end-of-a-guy-and-he-s/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/2fb/dan-savage-2880_adultery_is-it-adultery-if-i-m-committing-it-at-o_518733.jpg) > [If kids got raped at Denny's as often as they get raped at church it would be illegal to take your kids…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/if-kids-got-raped-at-denny-s-as-often-as-they-get-raped-at-church-it/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e60/dan-savage-2880_church_if-kids-got-raped-at-denny-s-as-often-as_3170021.jpg) > [I’m searching for some exit poll data from California. I’ll eat my shorts if gay and lesbian voters went for McCain at…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/i-m-searching-for-some-exit-poll-data-from-california-i-ll-eat-my/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a65/dan-savage-2880_black_i-m-searching-for-some-exit-poll-data-fr_1635104.jpg) > [The right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness means that each of us is free to go our own way,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/the-right-to-life-liberty-and-the-pursuit-of-happiness-means-that/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9e5/dan-savage-2880_citizens_the-right-to-life-liberty-and-the-pursui_3155416.jpg) > [If sex isn't an important part of your marriage, you can't beef if your wife or husband does this unimportant thing with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/if-sex-isn-t-an-important-part-of-your-marriage-you-can-t-beef-if/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9ba/dan-savage-2880_beef_if-sex-isn-t-an-important-part-of-your-m_1934178.jpg) > [Pride became this dogma which meant you couldn't criticize anything gay - if you were the least bit critical of gay culture…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/pride-became-this-dogma-which-meant-you-couldn-t-criticize-anything/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/6d3/dan-savage-2880_bits_pride-became-this-dogma-which-meant-you_2777834.jpg) > [I feel like I'm a compassionate guy, but I also feel if somebody's grip on life or sanity is so tenuous that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/i-feel-like-i-m-a-compassionate-guy-but-i-also-feel-if-somebody-s/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/85d/dan-savage-2880_advice_i-feel-like-i-m-a-compassionate-guy-but_523742.jpg) > [I don't think that gay and lesbian relationships are identical to heterosexual relationships. I do think that heterosexual weddings, or at least…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/i-don-t-think-that-gay-and-lesbian-relationships-are-identical-to/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c86/dan-savage-2880_camps_i-don-t-think-that-gay-and-lesbian-relat_1198439.jpg) > [I'm not good looking. I'm very strange - a very bony face on an enormous skull, and I don't like to be…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/i-m-not-good-looking-i-m-very-strange-a-very-bony-face-on-an-enormous/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3a5/dan-savage-2880_dollars_i-m-not-good-looking-i-m-very-strange-a_623364.jpg) > [Valentine's Day is much more of a holy day of obligation for a guy in a relationship with a woman, because a…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/valentine-s-day-is-much-more-of-a-holy-day-of-obligation-for-a-guy-in/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/bcb/dan-savage-2880_cases_valentine-s-day-is-much-more-of-a-holy-d_2818392.jpg) > [I treat people who write me the way my friends and I all treat each other when we go to each other…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/i-treat-people-who-write-me-the-way-my-friends-and-i-all-treat-each/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f5d/dan-savage-2880_advice_i-treat-people-who-write-me-the-way-my-f_350658.jpg) > [I do know this, though: I’m done pretending that the handful of racist gay white men out there—and they’re out there, and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/i-do-know-this-though-i-m-done-pretending-that-the-handful-of-racist/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/707/dan-savage-2880_african-american_i-do-know-this-though-i-m-done-pretendin_2365954.jpg) > [My dad and mom were more like World War II-era parents, even though it was the 1960s, because they were both born…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/my-dad-and-mom-were-more-like-world-war-ii-era-parents-even-though-it/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ec6/dan-savage-2880_1960s_my-dad-and-mom-were-more-like-world-war_2505909.jpg) > [There's always something new with sex. We lived in a world without Viagra, now we live in a world with Viagra. We…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/there-s-always-something-new-with-sex-we-lived-in-a-world-without/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/be5/dan-savage-2880_attention_there-s-always-something-new-with-sex-we_592509.jpg) ## Other authors on Ifs ## More by Dan Savage > [Preaching to the choir actually arms the choir with arguments and elevates the choir's discourse. There's a reason the right does it and does…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/preaching-to-the-choir-actually-arms-the-choir-with-arguments-and/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) > [Bisexuals need to recognize that their being closeted is a huge contributing factor to the hostility they face.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/bisexuals-need-to-recognize-that-their-being-closeted-is-a-huge/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) > [Really, when it comes to gay rights, there's two wars going on. The first war is political. But the culture war is over.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/really-when-it-comes-to-gay-rights-there-s-two-wars-going-on-the/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) > [I get letters every year from women who think Valentine's Day is an empty exercise, but are ironically pretty exercised when their boyfriends neglect…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/i-get-letters-every-year-from-women-who-think-valentine-s-day-is-an/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) > [I'm allergic to dogs, so I couldn't even adopt what gay men typically adopt when they have that maternal gene.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/i-m-allergic-to-dogs-so-i-couldn-t-even-adopt-what-gay-men-typically/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) > [And that really captures the difference for the bullied straight kid versus the bullied gay kid, is that the bullied straight kid goes home…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/and-that-really-captures-the-difference-for-the-bullied-straight-kid/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) > [I'm one of those gay people who's constantly reminded of how fortunate I am to live now and not to be Ennis and Jack…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/i-m-one-of-those-gay-people-who-s-constantly-reminded-of-how/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) > [I think the best thing for you to do is just live your life. Live a life that's worth living, one where you do…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/i-think-the-best-thing-for-you-to-do-is-just-live-your-life-live-a/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) > [the Bible is only as good and decent as the person reading it.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/the-bible-is-only-as-good-and-decent-as-the-person-reading-it/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) > [There's a big mistake the left has made with talking to religious people, which is attempting to talk them out of their interpretations of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/there-s-a-big-mistake-the-left-has-made-with-talking-to-religious/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) > [The mistake that straight people made was imposing the monogamous expectation on men. Men were never expected to be monogamous.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/the-mistake-that-straight-people-made-was-imposing-the-monogamous/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) > [I got picked on a lot, even by teachers too. I liked to listen to musicals and bake, and my homeroom teacher found out…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/i-got-picked-on-a-lot-even-by-teachers-too-i-liked-to-listen-to/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) > [“Either way... you've got to tell him--in no uncertain terms--to knock it the fuck off already. Don't be measured, don't wrap it up in…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/either-way-you-ve-got-to-tell-him-in-no-uncertain-terms-to-knock-it/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) > [I wanted to be a priest when I was a kid.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/i-wanted-to-be-a-priest-when-i-was-a-kid/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) > [When you're young and queer and closeted, you can end up in this place where you regard your straight peers as the enemy.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dan-savage/when-you-re-young-and-queer-and-closeted-you-can-end-up-in-this-place/) [Dan Savage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-savage/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/ifs/dan-savage/#itemlist", "name": "16 Ifs Quotes By Dan Savage", "numberOfItems": 16, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "To be gay is nothing to be proud of. 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