--- title: "29 Ifs Quotes By Andrew Solomon" description: "29 Ifs quotes by Andrew Solomon. Plus more from Andrew Solomon and more Ifs sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/394/andrew-solomon-1140_bears_we-cannot-bear-a-pointless-torment-but-w_1749532.jpg" --- > [We cannot bear a pointless torment, but we can endure great pain if we believe that it's purposeful.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/we-cannot-bear-a-pointless-torment-but-we-can-endure-great-pain-if-we/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/394/andrew-solomon-1140_bears_we-cannot-bear-a-pointless-torment-but-w_1749532.jpg) > [If your love didn't always contain the possibility of loss, it would be very different from human love as we know it.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/if-your-love-didn-t-always-contain-the-possibility-of-loss-it-would/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/796/andrew-solomon-1140_different_if-your-love-didn-t-always-contain-the-p_64952.jpg) > [We live in the right time, even if it doesn't always feel like it.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/we-live-in-the-right-time-even-if-it-doesn-t-always-feel-like-it/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/34b/andrew-solomon-1140_feels_we-live-in-the-right-time-even-if-it-doe_1483051.jpg) > [The absence of marriages will result in all kinds of financial burdens that gay people wouldn't face if they could get married.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/the-absence-of-marriages-will-result-in-all-kinds-of-financial-2/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b00/andrew-solomon-1140_absence_the-absence-of-marriages-will-result-in_2204756.jpg) > [Exercise because it's good for you even if every step weighs a thousand pounds.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/exercise-because-it-s-good-for-you-even-if-every-step-weighs-a/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/6db/andrew-solomon-1140_every-step_exercise-because-it-s-good-for-you-even_2601239.jpg) > [I'm sure that if we had enough sophistication, someone could look at what my changes in brain structure were as I came…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/i-m-sure-that-if-we-had-enough-sophistication-someone-could-look-at/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a6f/andrew-solomon-1140_brain_i-m-sure-that-if-we-had-enough-sophistic_2570155.jpg) > [I do think that if the Church can see its way to greater tolerance, Church members will have greater exposure to gay…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/i-do-think-that-if-the-church-can-see-its-way-to-greater-tolerance/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/132/andrew-solomon-1140_church_i-do-think-that-if-the-church-can-see-it_2085555.jpg) > [I feel, as a matter nearly of faith, that if you have known a certain amount of suffering and have emerged out…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/i-feel-as-a-matter-nearly-of-faith-that-if-you-have-known-a-certain/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e54/andrew-solomon-1140_amount_i-feel-as-a-matter-nearly-of-faith-that_2989694.jpg) > [If you are married and you go off and have an affair with someone, if you are a husband who does that,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/if-you-are-married-and-you-go-off-and-have-an-affair-with-someone-if/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/318/andrew-solomon-1140_affair_if-you-are-married-and-you-go-off-and-ha_1936460.jpg) > [If really good people who are deeply committed and who are thriving spiritually have to beat down the nature with which they…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/if-really-good-people-who-are-deeply-committed-and-who-are-thriving/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/dc4/andrew-solomon-1140_beats_if-really-good-people-who-are-deeply-com_2822833.jpg) > [If the Mormon Church still supported polygamy, and if it appeared to be a system that was not exploitative of women, I…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/if-the-mormon-church-still-supported-polygamy-and-if-it-appeared-to/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/67d/andrew-solomon-1140_church_if-the-mormon-church-still-supported-pol_1318996.jpg) > [I would certainly not want my child to be schizophrenic. I wouldn't want him or her to be a criminal either. If,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/i-would-certainly-not-want-my-child-to-be-schizophrenic-i-wouldn-t/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4f0/andrew-solomon-1140_admiration_i-would-certainly-not-want-my-child-to-b_2490174.jpg) > [When I was younger, not being accepted made me enraged, but now, I am not inclined to dismantle my history. If you…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/when-i-was-younger-not-being-accepted-made-me-enraged-but-now-i-am/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3e9/andrew-solomon-1140_accepted_when-i-was-younger-not-being-accepted-ma_887507.jpg) > [And I found out about the wonderful world of sign language. I suddenly realized: If we as a society recognize Jewish culture,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/and-i-found-out-about-the-wonderful-world-of-sign-language-i-suddenly/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f02/andrew-solomon-1140_culture_and-i-found-out-about-the-wonderful-worl_1389043.jpg) > [Penalizing homosexuals does not save any innocent victims. The idea that God and the Church accept these people while they are celibate;…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/penalizing-homosexuals-does-not-save-any-innocent-victims-the-idea/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/333/andrew-solomon-1140_accepting_penalizing-homosexuals-does-not-save-any_741378.jpg) > [I got into my first serious relationship with a man when I was twenty-three. I had, before that, sort of a typical,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/i-got-into-my-first-serious-relationship-with-a-man-when-i-was-twenty/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4d8/andrew-solomon-1140_encounters_i-got-into-my-first-serious-relationship_1935748.jpg) > [Absence does not so much make the heart grow fonder as give the heart time to integrate what it has not previously…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/absence-does-not-so-much-make-the-heart-grow-fonder-as-give-the-heart/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0e5/andrew-solomon-1140_absence_absence-does-not-so-much-make-the-heart_1752077.jpg) > [When I remember how unhappy I was in adolescence - about the fact that, though I wasn't really using the term to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/when-i-remember-how-unhappy-i-was-in-adolescence-about-the-fact-that/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5f5/andrew-solomon-1140_adolescence_when-i-remember-how-unhappy-i-was-in-ado_832132.jpg) > [I understand perfectly well why the Catholic Church preaches against abortion. But it shouldn't be the purpose of the Catholic Church to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/i-understand-perfectly-well-why-the-catholic-church-preaches-against/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/06e/andrew-solomon-1140_abortion_i-understand-perfectly-well-why-the-cath_3098788.jpg) > [The absence of marriages will result in all kinds of financial burdens that gay people wouldn't face if they could get married.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/the-absence-of-marriages-will-result-in-all-kinds-of-financial/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c0a/andrew-solomon-1140_absence_the-absence-of-marriages-will-result-in_645976.jpg) > [If some glorious angel suddenly descended through my living room ceiling and offered to take away the children I have and give…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/if-some-glorious-angel-suddenly-descended-through-my-living-room/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e8e/andrew-solomon-1140_angel_if-some-glorious-angel-suddenly-descende_2572349.jpg) > [I felt a funeral in my brain, and mourners to and fro kept treading, treading till I felt that sense was breaking…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/i-felt-a-funeral-in-my-brain-and-mourners-to-and-fro-kept-treading/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/2ce/andrew-solomon-1140_bells_i-felt-a-funeral-in-my-brain-and-mourner_2814599.jpg) > [If I understand correctly, part of the objection to homosexuality used to have to do with the fact that gay people didn't…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/if-i-understand-correctly-part-of-the-objection-to-homosexuality-used/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c80/andrew-solomon-1140_christian_if-i-understand-correctly-part-of-the-ob_1022732.jpg) > [What has become clear to me is that it is not the inherent nature of being gay that causes such a reduced…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/what-has-become-clear-to-me-is-that-it-is-not-the-inherent-nature-of/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fe9/andrew-solomon-1140_able_what-has-become-clear-to-me-is-that-it-i_2168503.jpg) > [We don't seek the painful experiences that hew our identities, but we seek our identities in the wake of painful experiences. We…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/we-don-t-seek-the-painful-experiences-that-hew-our-identities-but-we-2/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/337/andrew-solomon-1140_bears_we-don-t-seek-the-painful-experiences-th_2618407.jpg) > [If someone says: "I don't want to have a cochlear implant, because I want my child to grow up with a rich…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/if-someone-says-i-don-t-want-to-have-a-cochlear-implant-because-i/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ee8/andrew-solomon-1140_acknowledge_if-someone-says-i-don-t-want-to-have-a-c_1931438.jpg) > [If you don't want to have gay weddings in Mormon churches, that's fine. That's absolutely up to the members of the faith…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/if-you-don-t-want-to-have-gay-weddings-in-mormon-churches-that-s-fine/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e29/andrew-solomon-1140_church_if-you-don-t-want-to-have-gay-weddings-i_734024.jpg) > [Antonio Gramsci said that social reformers should have pessimism of the intellect and optimism of the will. This means that one must…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/antonio-gramsci-said-that-social-reformers-should-have-pessimism-of/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/057/andrew-solomon-1140_ability_antonio-gramsci-said-that-social-reforme_1321391.jpg) > [My parents deeply and truly loved each other, and if my mother hadn't died they would have been together forever. They were…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/my-parents-deeply-and-truly-loved-each-other-and-if-my-mother-hadn-t/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/bc7/andrew-solomon-1140_bars_my-parents-deeply-and-truly-loved-each-o_2973100.jpg) ## Other authors on Ifs ## More by Andrew Solomon > [“If you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes...”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/if-you-banish-the-dragons-you-banish-the-heroes/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) > [I started traveling out of curiosity, but I have come to believe in travel's political importance, that encouraging a nation's citizenry to travel may…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/i-started-traveling-out-of-curiosity-but-i-have-come-to-believe-in/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) > [When I was born, the wisdom was that homosexuality was an illness; that it was caused largely by somebody's mother, and a distorted relationship…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/when-i-was-born-the-wisdom-was-that-homosexuality-was-an-illness-that/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) > [A lot of people are very political when they are young, and then they outgrow it.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/a-lot-of-people-are-very-political-when-they-are-young-and-then-they/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) > [Having always imagined myself in a fairly slim minority, I suddenly saw that I was in a vast company. Difference unites us. While each…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/having-always-imagined-myself-in-a-fairly-slim-minority-i-suddenly/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) > [If your love didn't always contain the possibility of loss, it would be very different from human love as we know it.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/if-your-love-didn-t-always-contain-the-possibility-of-loss-it-would/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) > [Antonin Artaud wrote on one of his drawings, "Never real and always true," and that is how depression feels. You know that it is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/antonin-artaud-wrote-on-one-of-his-drawings-never-real-and-always/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) > [I met people on college campuses who were defining themselves as genderqueer to express revolutionary feelings, or to communicate their individuality; they were gender…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/i-met-people-on-college-campuses-who-were-defining-themselves-as/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) > [“In the throws of depression, one reaches a strange point at which it is impossible to see the line between ones own theatricality and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/in-the-throws-of-depression-one-reaches-a-strange-point-at-which-it/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) > [“Since I am writing a book about depression, I am often asked in social situations to describe my own experiences, and I usually end…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/since-i-am-writing-a-book-about-depression-i-am-often-asked-in-social/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) > [Loving our own children is an exercise for the imagination.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/loving-our-own-children-is-an-exercise-for-the-imagination/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) > [One the one hand, the simple fact that there are children and that I do have an effect on them has been one of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/one-the-one-hand-the-simple-fact-that-there-are-children-and-that-i/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) > [I grew up feeling that to be gay was a tragedy. I didn't grow up thinking that it was morally wrong, but I grew…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/i-grew-up-feeling-that-to-be-gay-was-a-tragedy-i-didn-t-grow-up/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) > [We need to acknowledge that families come in multiple shapes and sizes, that love is not a finite asset, and that caregiving involves more…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/we-need-to-acknowledge-that-families-come-in-multiple-shapes-and/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) > [I had always wanted to have children, so it caused me a lot of grief when I was younger, and I had supposed that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/andrew-solomon/i-had-always-wanted-to-have-children-so-it-caused-me-a-lot-of-grief/) [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": 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