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> [ “In the most common fantasy of ideal love, \[...\], a woman can only unleash her desire in the hands of a man whom she imagines to be more powerful, who does not depend upon her for his strength. \[...\] The… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-benjamin/in-the-most-common-fantasy-of-ideal-love-a-woman-can-only-unleash-her/)

Jessica Benjamin

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## More by Jessica Benjamin

> [ “\[T\]he psychoanalytic process should be understood as occurring between subjects rather than within the individual. Mental life is seen from an intersubjective perspective. Although… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-benjamin/t-he-psychoanalytic-process-should-be-understood-as-occurring-between/)

Jessica Benjamin

> [“Beauty belongs to the beloved who returns the gaze, in whose eyes we see the sun. But in this . . . beauty, in…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-benjamin/beauty-belongs-to-the-beloved-who-returns-the-gaze-in-whose-eyes-we/)

Jessica Benjamin

> [“All that is bad and dreaded is projected into the other, and all the anxiety is seen as the product of external attack rather…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-benjamin/all-that-is-bad-and-dreaded-is-projected-into-the-other-and-all-the/)

Jessica Benjamin

> [ “In the most common fantasy of ideal love, \[...\], a woman can only unleash her desire in the hands of a man whom she… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jessica-benjamin/in-the-most-common-fantasy-of-ideal-love-a-woman-can-only-unleash-her/)

Jessica Benjamin

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