--- title: "7 I realized Quotes By Sarah Dessen" description: "7 I realized quotes by Sarah Dessen. Plus more from Sarah Dessen and more I realized sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a0e/sarah-dessen-110_answers_if-what-you-re-asking-is-how-i-debated-w_215203.jpg" --- > [If what you're asking is how I debated whether or not to love her the answer is I didn't. Not at all.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/if-what-you-re-asking-is-how-i-debated-whether-or-not-to-love-her-the/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a0e/sarah-dessen-110_answers_if-what-you-re-asking-is-how-i-debated-w_215203.jpg) > [He was looking at me, jsut as I'd thought he would be, but like Bert's, his light was not what I expected.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/he-was-looking-at-me-jsut-as-i-d-thought-he-would-be-but-like-bert-s/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fd2/sarah-dessen-110_able_he-was-looking-at-me-jsut-as-i-d-thought_404407.jpg) > [When I was in high school, I was always really envious of those girls who seemed to have everything: the perfect hair,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/when-i-was-in-high-school-i-was-always-really-envious-of-those-girls/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/efc/sarah-dessen-110_clothes_when-i-was-in-high-school-i-was-always-r_879752.png) > [I realized how truly hard it was, really, to see someone you love change right before your eyes. Not only is it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/i-realized-how-truly-hard-it-was-really-to-see-someone-you-love/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/2b2/sarah-dessen-110_balance_i-realized-how-truly-hard-it-was-really_888082.png) > [Everyone laughed, and just like that, the conversation shifted, jumping to another topic. It was fast and furious, the talking, the emotions,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/everyone-laughed-and-just-like-that-the-conversation-shifted-jumping/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/365/sarah-dessen-110_along-for-the-ride_everyone-laughed-and-just-like-that-the_1676682.png) > [She was so emotional, on the verge of tears. This was what I'd wanted to prevent with all those quick disappearances, the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/she-was-so-emotional-on-the-verge-of-tears-this-was-what-i-d-wanted/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/2cb/sarah-dessen-110_baggage_she-was-so-emotional-on-the-verge-of-tea_2324690.png) > [In school, writing was the only thing that really came naturally to me, but it wasn't until college that I realized that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/in-school-writing-was-the-only-thing-that-really-came-naturally-to-me/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b5e/sarah-dessen-110_college_in-school-writing-was-the-only-thing-tha_2334241.png) ## Other authors on I realized ## More by Sarah Dessen > [Sometimes a question can hurt more than an answer.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/sometimes-a-question-can-hurt-more-than-an-answer/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) > [“if i were a book i would be so open”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/if-i-were-a-book-i-would-be-so-open/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) > [Harder to get in than out, like so little else.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/harder-to-get-in-than-out-like-so-little-else/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) > [“At times, I found myself questioning his very existence, even though I knew I had, in fact, spotted him, with my own eyes.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/at-times-i-found-myself-questioning-his-very-existence-even-though-i/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) > [You don't have to say it out loud. I already know why you like me.' 'You do, huh?' 'Yep.' He wrapped his arms around…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/you-don-t-have-to-say-it-out-loud-i-already-know-why-you-like-me-you/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) > [No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/no-relationship-is-perfect-ever-there-are-always-some-ways-you-have/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) > [When you had to do something, you had to do it. And eventually, if you were lucky, you did it well.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/when-you-had-to-do-something-you-had-to-do-it-and-eventually-if-you/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) > [the truth about forever is that it is happening right now](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/the-truth-about-forever-is-that-it-is-happening-right-now/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) > [I jammed my hand in my jacket pocket, bracing myself fo the next hit, and fel something. Something grainy and samll, sticking to the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/i-jammed-my-hand-in-my-jacket-pocket-bracing-myself-fo-the-next-hit/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) > [I had no illusions about love anymore. It came, it went, it left casualties or it didn't. People weren't meant to be together forever,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/i-had-no-illusions-about-love-anymore-it-came-it-went-it-left/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) > [“But maybe that isn't so bad. You can't love anyone that way more than once in a lifetime. It's too hard and it hurts…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/but-maybe-that-isn-t-so-bad-you-can-t-love-anyone-that-way-more-than/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) > [This was just one night, one chance to vary and see where it took me. The fireflies were probably already out: maybe it wasn’t…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/this-was-just-one-night-one-chance-to-vary-and-see-where-it-took-me/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) > [call it chicken salad](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/call-it-chicken-salad/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) > [“For me, however, it was a mix of the two, this constant push and pull. I loved it here. But I'd been in that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/for-me-however-it-was-a-mix-of-the-two-this-constant-push-and-pull-i/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) > [I think whenever a writer is really enjoying themselves and liking what they are doing, that shows on the page.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sarah-dessen/i-think-whenever-a-writer-is-really-enjoying-themselves-and-liking/) [Sarah Dessen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sarah-dessen/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/i-realized/sarah-dessen/#itemlist", "name": "7 I realized Quotes By Sarah Dessen", "numberOfItems": 7, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "If what you're asking is how I debated whether or not to love her the answer is I didn't. Not at all. It just happened. 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