--- title: "1 Hurt Maybe Quotes By Barbara Gowdy" description: "1 Hurt Maybe quotes by Barbara Gowdy. Plus more from Barbara Gowdy and more Hurt Maybe sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ef3/barbara-gowdy-55290_death_is-that-how-he-sees-it-he-knows-how-much_907390.jpg" --- > [“Is that how he sees it? He knows how much his death will hurt us, so he must be under the impression that by staying alive he'll eventually hurt us even more. Maybe we should pretend we've stopped caring what…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/barbara-gowdy/is-that-how-he-sees-it-he-knows-how-much-his-death-will-hurt-us-so-he/) [Barbara Gowdy](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/barbara-gowdy/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ef3/barbara-gowdy-55290_death_is-that-how-he-sees-it-he-knows-how-much_907390.jpg) ## More by Barbara Gowdy > [“I think of the emptiness of outer space, and the men in their little pods going up there alone, wives and girlfriends left behind.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/barbara-gowdy/i-think-of-the-emptiness-of-outer-space-and-the-men-in-their-little/) [Barbara Gowdy](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/barbara-gowdy/) > [“Is that how he sees it? 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"I am." The assumption being, that living…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/barbara-gowdy/life-is-oblivion-erupting-for-a-brief-moment-into-nonoblivion-in/) [Barbara Gowdy](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/barbara-gowdy/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/hurt-maybe/barbara-gowdy/#itemlist", "name": "1 Hurt Maybe Quotes By Barbara Gowdy", "numberOfItems": 1, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“Is that how he sees it? He knows how much his death will hurt us, so he must be under the impression that by staying alive he'll eventually hurt us even more. Maybe we should pretend we've stopped caring what he does. Say, \"We've given up on you, Abel. You don't matter.\" Well, that would gratify him, our failling in line with what he has been telling us for months. How do we get around that? How do we persuade him that he's entitled to cause pain and, what's more, that he has a responsibility to bear the pain that he causes? If only I could say, \"You're worthy of your own life,\" and make him believe me. Too late. Too late. He seems completely enraptured now by the idea of no longer existing. I think he imagines the space he'll vacate, the actually physical space, and there we'll be, his parents and I, waving our hands around trying to find him, but at least we won't come up against any resistance. 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