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> [“Men are not listeners . . . They hear what they expect to hear, or want to hear, or are certain they will hear, and women, being supple creatures trained to please, have often told them what we women knew…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/men-are-not-listeners-they-hear-what-they-expect-to-hear-or-want-to/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

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## More by Carolyn Heilbrun

> [We cannot guess the outcome of our actions... Which is why our actions must always be acceptable in themselves, and not as strategies.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/we-cannot-guess-the-outcome-of-our-actions-which-is-why-our-actions/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

> [I don't know why togetherness was ever held up as an ideal of marriage. Away from home for both, then together, that's much better.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/i-don-t-know-why-togetherness-was-ever-held-up-as-an-ideal-of/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

> [In former days, everyone found the assumption of innocence so easy; today we find fatally easy the assumption of guilt.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/in-former-days-everyone-found-the-assumption-of-innocence-so-easy/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

> [“. . . the less androgynous the person, the likelier he or she was to be incapable of action if the appropriate action was…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/the-less-androgynous-the-person-the-likelier-he-or-she-was-to-be/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

> [“But will anyone again look at that tree, read that poem, love a dog in quite my way? I am a particular and, despite…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/but-will-anyone-again-look-at-that-tree-read-that-poem-love-a-dog-in/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

> [maturity ... is letting things happen.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/maturity-is-letting-things-happen/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

> [one sank into the ancient sin of anomie when challenges failed.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/one-sank-into-the-ancient-sin-of-anomie-when-challenges-failed/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

> [Ardent, intelligent, sweet, sensitive, cultivated, erudite. These are the adjectives of praise in an androgynous world. Those who consider them epithets of shame or…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/ardent-intelligent-sweet-sensitive-cultivated-erudite-these-are-the/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

> [Quoting, like smoking, ... is a dirty habit to which I am devoted. But then ... I am a professor of English literature; it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/quoting-like-smoking-is-a-dirty-habit-to-which-i-am-devoted-but-then/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

> [That is the point of quotations. One can use another's words to be insulting.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/that-is-the-point-of-quotations-one-can-use-another-s-words-to-be/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

> [ a revolutionary marriage ... \[is\] one in which both partners have work at the center of their lives and must find a delicate balance… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/a-revolutionary-marriage-is-one-in-which-both-partners-have-work-at/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

> [The rare, delicate flavor of a life after retiring in one's sixties, whatever one has "retired" from, the pleasure I experienced beyond my job…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/the-rare-delicate-flavor-of-a-life-after-retiring-in-one-s-sixties/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

> [What marks a writer is this: until she - or he, of course - writes down whatever happened, turns it into a story, it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/what-marks-a-writer-is-this-until-she-or-he-of-course-writes-down/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

> [Whether deliberately, unconsciously or accidentally, she seems to have composed her own life so that its fitful, rudderless, and self-doubting first half was alchemized…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/whether-deliberately-unconsciously-or-accidentally-she-seems-to-have/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

> [Upon becoming fifty the one thing you can't afford is habit.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carolyn-heilbrun/upon-becoming-fifty-the-one-thing-you-can-t-afford-is-habit/)

[Carolyn Heilbrun](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-heilbrun/)

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