--- title: "1 Dwelling on the past Quotes By Valerie Porr M.A" description: "1 Dwelling on the past quotes by Valerie Porr M.A. Plus more from Valerie Porr M.A and more Dwelling on the past sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f03/valerie-porr-m-a-28616_dwelling-on-the-past_people-with-bpd-spend-a-great-deal-of-th_675544.jpg" --- > [“People with BPD spend a great deal of their emotional energy worrying about past pain or potential future problems. “If I do that, this will happen.” Dwelling on the past or the future prevents you from focusing on the present.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/valerie-porr-m-a/people-with-bpd-spend-a-great-deal-of-their-emotional-energy-worrying/) [Valerie Porr M.A](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/valerie-porr-m-a/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f03/valerie-porr-m-a-28616_dwelling-on-the-past_people-with-bpd-spend-a-great-deal-of-th_675544.jpg) ## More by Valerie Porr M.A > [“Gwen, a woman with BPD, talks about her inability to decipher the world around her. “On the day I was born, all the newborn…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/valerie-porr-m-a/gwen-a-woman-with-bpd-talks-about-her-inability-to-decipher-the-world/) [Valerie Porr M.A](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/valerie-porr-m-a/) > [“People with BPD spend a great deal of their emotional energy worrying about past pain or potential future problems. “If I do that, this…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/valerie-porr-m-a/people-with-bpd-spend-a-great-deal-of-their-emotional-energy-worrying/) [Valerie Porr M.A](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/valerie-porr-m-a/) > [“they may pontificate that the suicide attempt was merely a ploy to gain attention or to manipulate others. No matter what may have motivated…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/valerie-porr-m-a/they-may-pontificate-that-the-suicide-attempt-was-merely-a-ploy-to/) [Valerie Porr M.A](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/valerie-porr-m-a/) > [“It is not necessary to get into a fight with someone because you feel angry; aggressive behavior does not have to be a knee-jerk…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/valerie-porr-m-a/it-is-not-necessary-to-get-into-a-fight-with-someone-because-you-feel/) [Valerie Porr M.A](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/valerie-porr-m-a/) > [“This painful mental illness is not fair, but saying it is not fair does not change anything. Thinking that you should not have to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/valerie-porr-m-a/this-painful-mental-illness-is-not-fair-but-saying-it-is-not-fair/) [Valerie Porr M.A](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/valerie-porr-m-a/) > [“If you want to pull someone out of a deep hole, do you jump in after her? Now that you are in the hole…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/valerie-porr-m-a/if-you-want-to-pull-someone-out-of-a-deep-hole-do-you-jump-in-after/) [Valerie Porr M.A](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/valerie-porr-m-a/) > [“Willingness is giving up trying to control behaviors or outcomes. By giving up control you can do what is needed in any situation. Willingness…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/valerie-porr-m-a/willingness-is-giving-up-trying-to-control-behaviors-or-outcomes-by/) [Valerie Porr M.A](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/valerie-porr-m-a/) > [“It is very difficult to go through life when your core belief about yourself is that you are incompetent and do not count. When…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/valerie-porr-m-a/it-is-very-difficult-to-go-through-life-when-your-core-belief-about/) [Valerie Porr M.A](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/valerie-porr-m-a/) > [“Radical acceptance requires being open to fully experiencing your own life, as it is, without wishing it were not so and without pretending it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/valerie-porr-m-a/radical-acceptance-requires-being-open-to-fully-experiencing-your-own/) [Valerie Porr M.A](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/valerie-porr-m-a/) > [“People with BPD tend to judge themselves and others in extreme ways. They will often use excessively positive terms, idealizing or glorifying, or excessively…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/valerie-porr-m-a/people-with-bpd-tend-to-judge-themselves-and-others-in-extreme-ways/) [Valerie Porr M.A](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/valerie-porr-m-a/) > [“Western culture does not encourage validating someone’s emotional responses, as emotional awareness of daily interactions is counterintuitive to how we normally react. In today’s…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/valerie-porr-m-a/western-culture-does-not-encourage-validating-someone-s-emotional/) [Valerie Porr M.A](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/valerie-porr-m-a/) > [“Think of your loved one as living in a different culture. Get to know his culture, learn to speak his language. 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