--- title: "2 Domestic abuse Quotes By Bandy X Lee" description: "2 Domestic abuse quotes by Bandy X Lee. Plus more from Bandy X Lee and more Domestic abuse sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/448/bandy-x-lee-21929_children_to-have-poor-shame-tolerance-they-learne_822815.jpg" --- > [“to have poor shame tolerance. They learned in childhood to manage feelings of inadequacy by adopting unhealthy coping mechanisms to forestall or avoid shaming experiences. Poor shame tolerance causes behaviors associated with the just-mentioned DSM disorders, including vindictive anger, lack…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/to-have-poor-shame-tolerance-they-learned-in-childhood-to-manage/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/448/bandy-x-lee-21929_children_to-have-poor-shame-tolerance-they-learne_822815.jpg) > [“The cause of their behaviors is low self-worth, which leads them to have poor shame tolerance. They learned in childhood to manage feelings of inadequacy by adopting unhealthy coping mechanisms to forestall or avoid shaming experiences. Poor shame tolerance causes…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/the-cause-of-their-behaviors-is-low-self-worth-which-leads-them-to/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/09f/bandy-x-lee-21929_coping-mechanisms_the-cause-of-their-behaviors-is-low-self_2655877.jpg) ## Other authors on Domestic abuse - [Lundy Bancroft 22 quotes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/domestic-abuse/lundy-bancroft/) - [Susan Weitzman 8 quotes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/domestic-abuse/susan-weitzman/) - [Sierra D. Waters 7 quotes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/domestic-abuse/sierra-d-waters/) ## More by Bandy X Lee > [“In Donald Trump, we have a frightening Venn diagram consisting of three circles: the first is extreme present hedonism; the second, narcissism; and the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/in-donald-trump-we-have-a-frightening-venn-diagram-consisting-of/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) > [“Even those with less-severe Other-blaming traits end up damaging relationships because they lack an ability to attend or respond to their partner’s emotions with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/even-those-with-less-severe-other-blaming-traits-end-up-damaging/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) > [“Other-blamers instinctively seek out those willing to be controlled, manipulated, or intimidated. This sets up relationships with submissive people who will not challenge, correct,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/other-blamers-instinctively-seek-out-those-willing-to-be-controlled/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) > [“People with NPD have a strong need, in every area of their life, to be treated as if they’re special. To those with NPD,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/people-with-npd-have-a-strong-need-in-every-area-of-their-life-to-be/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) > [“And empathy? Even Trump’s former mentor, the notorious Roy Cohn, lawyer for gangsters and Joseph McCarthy, said that when it came to his feelings…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/and-empathy-even-trump-s-former-mentor-the-notorious-roy-cohn-lawyer/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) > [“one way in which severe sociopaths do have a certain, frightening type of empathy. It is the empathy of the predator. A tiger stalking…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/one-way-in-which-severe-sociopaths-do-have-a-certain-frightening-type/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) > [“to have poor shame tolerance. They learned in childhood to manage feelings of inadequacy by adopting unhealthy coping mechanisms to forestall or avoid shaming…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/to-have-poor-shame-tolerance-they-learned-in-childhood-to-manage/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) > [“Other-blamers and abusers lie so frequently that their partners often do not know what to believe. How can a relationship of any kind withstand…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/other-blamers-and-abusers-lie-so-frequently-that-their-partners-often/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) > [“In his constant attempts to redefine the truth against the wrongdoings he has enacted, Donald Trump behaves like an aggressive perpetrator who fundamentally has…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/in-his-constant-attempts-to-redefine-the-truth-against-the/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) > [“We have learned through research on trauma survivors that early events that stimulate our fight-or-flight response have long-lasting effects. It usually directs us to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/we-have-learned-through-research-on-trauma-survivors-that-early/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) > [“In that regard, one final clarification is in order. Trump is now the most powerful head of state in the world, and one of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/in-that-regard-one-final-clarification-is-in-order-trump-is-now-the/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) > [“The human brain can protect us from seeing and feeling what it believes may be too uncomfortable for us to tolerate. It can lead…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/the-human-brain-can-protect-us-from-seeing-and-feeling-what-it/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) > [“In neurochemical terms, when he feels threatened or thwarted, Trump moves into a fight-or-flight state. His amygdala is triggered, his hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis activates, and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/in-neurochemical-terms-when-he-feels-threatened-or-thwarted-trump/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) > [“As children, Other-blamers were likely exposed to developmental or attachment trauma, such as abusive, shaming, rejecting, or neglectful parenting. Parents who are substance abusers…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/as-children-other-blamers-were-likely-exposed-to-developmental-or/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) > [“Impulsive, sensation-seeking, and incapable of experiencing empathy or guilt, a narcissistic psychopath treats other people as objects of need fulfillment and wish fulfillment. This…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/bandy-x-lee/impulsive-sensation-seeking-and-incapable-of-experiencing-empathy-or/) [Bandy X Lee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bandy-x-lee/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/domestic-abuse/bandy-x-lee/#itemlist", "name": "2 Domestic abuse Quotes By Bandy X Lee", "numberOfItems": 2, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“to have poor shame tolerance. They learned in childhood to manage feelings of inadequacy by adopting unhealthy coping mechanisms to forestall or avoid shaming experiences. Poor shame tolerance causes behaviors associated with the just-mentioned DSM disorders, including vindictive anger, lack of insight and accountability, dishonesty, impulsivity, entitlement, paranoia, lack of remorse and empathy, self-importance, and attention-seeking. 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