--- title: "1 Desired Quotes By Vivian Gornick" description: "1 Desired quotes by Vivian Gornick. Plus more from Vivian Gornick and more Desired sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/34e/vivian-gornick-8241_able_we-all-grew-up-so-utterly-vulnerable-ent_2666554.png" --- > [We all grew up so utterly vulnerable, enthralled by romantic love as we knew it. First of all, it was pounded into you every which way that you've got to get married and you've got to have babies. That you're…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/we-all-grew-up-so-utterly-vulnerable-enthralled-by-romantic-love-as/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/34e/vivian-gornick-8241_able_we-all-grew-up-so-utterly-vulnerable-ent_2666554.png) ## More by Vivian Gornick > [Research is the live heart of the scientific life ... Greatness of position, respect for past accomplishments, the Nobel Prize itself -- none of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/research-is-the-live-heart-of-the-scientific-life-greatness-of/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) > [“Suddenly, literature, politics, and analysis came together, and I began to think more inclusively about the emotional imprisonment of mind and spirit to which…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/suddenly-literature-politics-and-analysis-came-together-and-i-began/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) > [When I work I feel more alive than under any other circumstances. There's not an 'I love you' in the world that can match…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/when-i-work-i-feel-more-alive-than-under-any-other-circumstances/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) > [“All I had to do was get old enough and New York would be mine.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/all-i-had-to-do-was-get-old-enough-and-new-york-would-be-mine/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) > [“And I—the girl growing in their midst, being made in their image—I absorbed them as I would chloroform on a cloth laid against my…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/and-i-the-girl-growing-in-their-midst-being-made-in-their-image-i/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) > [Before I knew that I was Jewish or a girl I knew that I was a member of the working class. At a time…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/before-i-knew-that-i-was-jewish-or-a-girl-i-knew-that-i-was-a-member/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) > [When the whole world is writing letters, it's easy to lap into the quiet within, tell the story of an hour, keep alive the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/when-the-whole-world-is-writing-letters-it-s-easy-to-lap-into-the/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) > [“The live, warm presence of my mother had disappeared. In its place stood this remoteness posing as Mama. Her anxiety was unbearable to me.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/the-live-warm-presence-of-my-mother-had-disappeared-in-its-place/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) > [What you feel when you're writing is the relief of thinking: if you write the sentence correctly, you're clarifying. If you write the right…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/what-you-feel-when-you-re-writing-is-the-relief-of-thinking-if-you/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) > [No man worth his salt does not wish to be a husband and father; yet no man is raised to be a husband and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/no-man-worth-his-salt-does-not-wish-to-be-a-husband-and-father-yet-no/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) > [Psychoanalysis showed me that I might be neurotic because I was a girl but, as Chekhov might have put it, I alone had to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/psychoanalysis-showed-me-that-i-might-be-neurotic-because-i-was-a/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) > [“I had an affair with a downtown playwright. Two things about this man: He was an ex-alcoholic, and he was phobic about leaving the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/i-had-an-affair-with-a-downtown-playwright-two-things-about-this-man/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) > [The desire for narration keeps on reasserting itself, so that since modernism and fiction brought narration to an end, it is sought in memoirs.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/the-desire-for-narration-keeps-on-reasserting-itself-so-that-since/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) > [The point of women's liberation is not to stand at the door of the male world, beating our fists, and crying, 'Let me in,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/the-point-of-women-s-liberation-is-not-to-stand-at-the-door-of-the/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) > [“Una mujer sabe si ama a un hombre", decía. "Si no está segura, es que no lo ama”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vivian-gornick/una-mujer-sabe-si-ama-a-un-hombre-dec-a-si-no-est-segura-es-que-no-lo/) [Vivian Gornick](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vivian-gornick/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/desired/vivian-gornick/#itemlist", "name": "1 Desired Quotes By Vivian Gornick", "numberOfItems": 1, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "We all grew up so utterly vulnerable, enthralled by romantic love as we knew it. First of all, it was pounded into you every which way that you've got to get married and you've got to have babies. That you're not a natural woman if you don't. So that led to a lot of sitting by the telephone and waiting for a call. 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