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title: "3 Dependency Quotes By M. Scott Peck"
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> [“The second most common misconception about love is the idea that dependency is love...Its effect is seen most dramatically in an individual…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/the-second-most-common-misconception-about-love-is-the-idea-that/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

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> [“Specifically, one whose life is ruled and dictated by dependency needs suffers from a psychiatric disorder to which we ascribe the diagnostic…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/specifically-one-whose-life-is-ruled-and-dictated-by-dependency-needs/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

[Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8e3/m-scott-peck-1921_dependency_specifically-one-whose-life-is-ruled-and_304896.jpg)

> [“Dependency may appear to be love because it is a force that causes people to fiercely attach themselves to one another. But…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/dependency-may-appear-to-be-love-because-it-is-a-force-that-causes/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

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## Other authors on Dependency

- [Chris Prentiss 11 quotes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/dependency/chris-prentiss/)

## More by M. Scott Peck

> [But I already saw no great difference between the psyche and spirituality. To amass knowledge without becoming wise is not my idea of progress…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/but-i-already-saw-no-great-difference-between-the-psyche-and/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

> [As I grow through love, so grows my joy, ever more present, ever more constant.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/as-i-grow-through-love-so-grows-my-joy-ever-more-present-ever-more/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

> [“Life is difficult.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/life-is-difficult/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

> [“The second most common misconception about love is the idea that dependency is love...Its effect is seen most dramatically in an individual who makes…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/the-second-most-common-misconception-about-love-is-the-idea-that/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

> [Although I was raised in a profoundly secular home, I had a belief, an awareness of God, from as far back as I can…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/although-i-was-raised-in-a-profoundly-secular-home-i-had-a-belief-an/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

> [I've gone to great lengths not to be a guru. I think the notion of guruhood is utterly pathological, and I couldn't live that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/i-ve-gone-to-great-lengths-not-to-be-a-guru-i-think-the-notion-of/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

> [The whole course of human history may depend on a change of heart in one solitary and even humble individual - for it is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/the-whole-course-of-human-history-may-depend-on-a-change-of-heart-in/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

> [The act of loving is an act of self-evolution even when the purpose of the act is someone else's growth.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/the-act-of-loving-is-an-act-of-self-evolution-even-when-the-purpose/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

> [“Benjamin Franklin said, “Those things that hurt, instruct.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/benjamin-franklin-said-those-things-that-hurt-instruct/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

> [Abandon the urge to simplify everything, to look for formulas and easy answers, and to begin to think multidimensionally, to glory in the mystery…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/abandon-the-urge-to-simplify-everything-to-look-for-formulas-and-easy/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

> [Listening well is an exercise of attention and by necessity hard work. It is because they do not realize this or because they are…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/listening-well-is-an-exercise-of-attention-and-by-necessity-hard-work/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

> [“It is not selfishness or unselfishness that distinguishes love from non-love; it is the aim of the action.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/it-is-not-selfishness-or-unselfishness-that-distinguishes-love-from/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

> [Love is too large, too deep ever to be truly understood or measured or limited within the framework of words.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/love-is-too-large-too-deep-ever-to-be-truly-understood-or-measured-or/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

> [There is no act of love that is not an act of work or courage. No exceptions.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/there-is-no-act-of-love-that-is-not-an-act-of-work-or-courage-no/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

> [To be free people we must assume total responsibility for ourselves, but in doing so must possess the capacity to reject responsibility that is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/m-scott-peck/to-be-free-people-we-must-assume-total-responsibility-for-ourselves/)

[M. Scott Peck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/m-scott-peck/)

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