--- title: "1 Creation New Quotes By Robert Kegan" description: "1 Creation New quotes by Robert Kegan. Plus more from Robert Kegan and more Creation New sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/72a/robert-kegan-23287_growth_all-growth-is-costly-it-involves-the-lea_1745326.jpg" --- > [“All growth is costly. It involves the leaving behind of an old way of being in the world. Often it involves, at least for a time, leaving behind the others who have been identified with that old way of being.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/all-growth-is-costly-it-involves-the-leaving-behind-of-an-old-way-of/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/72a/robert-kegan-23287_growth_all-growth-is-costly-it-involves-the-lea_1745326.jpg) ## More by Robert Kegan > [Successfully functioning in a society with diverse values, traditions and lifestyles requires us to have a relationship to our own reactions rather than be…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/successfully-functioning-in-a-society-with-diverse-values-traditions/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) > [“The struggle of the sexes to know each other, to see each other, and to communicate deeply - a struggle which may be more…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/the-struggle-of-the-sexes-to-know-each-other-to-see-each-other-and-to/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) > [“Although I have suggested that American culture tends to favor the side of independence over the side of inclusion (and I would extend that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/although-i-have-suggested-that-american-culture-tends-to-favor-the/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) > [It is not change that causes anxiety; it is the feeling that we are without defenses in the presence of what we see as…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/it-is-not-change-that-causes-anxiety-it-is-the-feeling-that-we-are/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) > [“But what can be found can also be lost. The process of differentiation, creating the possibility of integration, brings into being the lifelong theme…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/but-what-can-be-found-can-also-be-lost-the-process-of-differentiation/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) > [“If you want to understand another person in some fundamental way you must know where the person is in his or her evolution...the way…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/if-you-want-to-understand-another-person-in-some-fundamental-way-you/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) > [“While the emergence from embeddedness in the interpersonal frees one from the subjectivity of constructing one's morality on the bases of arbitrary affections and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/while-the-emergence-from-embeddedness-in-the-interpersonal-frees-one/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) > [“Depression characterized by the 'threat-to' orientation lodges itself in one side of the proposition. Doing so does not eliminate doubt, it only places it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/depression-characterized-by-the-threat-to-orientation-lodges-itself/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) > [“It is easy for us to delude ourselves into thinking that our notions of the healthy person are unbiased by our particular circumstances or…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/it-is-easy-for-us-to-delude-ourselves-into-thinking-that-our-notions/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) > [“Instead of regarding them as things that just need to go away, we look at the behaviors as a precious resource, valuable information that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/instead-of-regarding-them-as-things-that-just-need-to-go-away-we-look/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) > [“All growth is costly. It involves the leaving behind of an old way of being in the world. Often it involves, at least for…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/all-growth-is-costly-it-involves-the-leaving-behind-of-an-old-way-of/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) > [“A writer has to strain to make the reader recover the process in the words 'human being'; we talk about 'a being' and 'beings.'…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/a-writer-has-to-strain-to-make-the-reader-recover-the-process-in-the/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) > [“Emergence from embeddedness involves a kind of repudiation, an evolutionary re-cognition that what before was me is not-me. This we see, too, on a…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/emergence-from-embeddedness-involves-a-kind-of-repudiation-an/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) > [Learning is the making of meaning.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/learning-is-the-making-of-meaning/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) > [“How do we help people (whether individuals or groups) to make their third column commitments visible? We begin by surfacing the biggest fears that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-kegan/how-do-we-help-people-whether-individuals-or-groups-to-make-their/) [Robert Kegan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-kegan/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/creation-new/robert-kegan/#itemlist", "name": "1 Creation New Quotes By Robert Kegan", "numberOfItems": 1, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“All growth is costly. It involves the leaving behind of an old way of being in the world. Often it involves, at least for a time, leaving behind the others who have been identified with that old way of being. The two-year-old's 'No\" is really a repudiation of his own old way of being. Seen from the point of view of his evolution, his declaration is really to his old self, which had been embedded in the world. ... 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