--- title: "6 Child-neglect Quotes by 6 authors" description: "Browse 6 Child-neglect quotes by 6 authors. Discover the best Child-neglect sayings and thoughts." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b0b/john-bowlby-34934_attachment_young-children-who-for-whatever-reason-a_865510.png" --- > [“young children, who for whatever reason are deprived of the continuous care and attention of a mother or a substitute-mother, are not…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/john-bowlby/young-children-who-for-whatever-reason-are-deprived-of-the-continuous/) [John Bowlby](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/john-bowlby/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b0b/john-bowlby-34934_attachment_young-children-who-for-whatever-reason-a_865510.png) > [“Because the victims are “only children,” their distress is trivialized. But in twenty years’ time these children will be adult who will…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alice-miller-the-drama-of-the-gifted-child/because-the-victims-are-only-children-their-distress-is-trivialized/) [Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alice-miller-the-drama-of-the-gifted-child/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5dd/alice-miller-the-drama-of-the_abuse_because-the-victims-are-only-children-th_1137140.jpg) > [“In some instances, even when crisis intervention has been intensive and appropriate, the mother and daughter are already so deeply estranged at…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/judith-lewis-herman/in-some-instances-even-when-crisis-intervention-has-been-intensive/) [Judith Lewis Herman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/judith-lewis-herman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/7b3/judith-lewis-herman-19218_abusive-men_in-some-instances-even-when-crisis-inter_2475290.jpg) > [“Early relational trauma results from the fact that we are often given more to experience in this life than we can bear…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/donald-kalsched/early-relational-trauma-results-from-the-fact-that-we-are-often-given/) [Donald Kalsched](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/donald-kalsched/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b4a/donald-kalsched-233355_brain_early-relational-trauma-results-from-the_2579485.jpg) > [“Last night I dreamt Moses and I were rowing underwater. We could breathe and talk to one another. We rowed past schools…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/j-dylan-yates/last-night-i-dreamt-moses-and-i-were-rowing-underwater-we-could/) [J. Dylan Yates](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/j-dylan-yates/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/78a/j-dylan-yates-244360_60-s_last-night-i-dreamt-moses-and-i-were-row_2848778.jpg) > [“As I grew into womanhood my confusion at the world became more apparent. I was taking comfort in behaviours that were familiar,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jane-hersey/as-i-grew-into-womanhood-my-confusion-at-the-world-became-more/) [Jane Hersey](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jane-hersey/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/cae/jane-hersey-68717_child-neglect_as-i-grew-into-womanhood-my-confusion-at_3072023.jpg) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/child-neglect/#itemlist", "name": "Child-neglect Quotes", "numberOfItems": 6, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“young children, who for whatever reason are deprived of the continuous care and attention of a mother or a substitute-mother, are not only temporarily disturbed by such deprivation, but may in some cases suffer long-term effects which persist Bowlby, J., Ainsworth, M., Boston, M., and Rosenbluth, D. (1956). The effects of mother-child separation: A follow-up study. British Journal of Medical Psychology, 29, 211-249.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "John Bowlby" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/john-bowlby/young-children-who-for-whatever-reason-are-deprived-of-the-continuous/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b0b/john-bowlby-34934_attachment_young-children-who-for-whatever-reason-a_865510.png", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b0b/john-bowlby-34934_attachment_young-children-who-for-whatever-reason-a_865510.png", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b0b/john-bowlby-34934_attachment_young-children-who-for-whatever-reason-a_865510.png", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“young children, who for whatever reason are deprived of the continuous care and attention of a mother or a…” — John Bowlby", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“Because the victims are “only children,” their distress is trivialized. But in twenty years’ time these children will be adult who will feel compelled to pay it all back to their own children. They may consciously fight with vigor against cruelty in the world yet carry within themselves an experience of cruelty that they may unconsciously inflict on others. As long as it remains hidden behind their idealized picture of a happy childhood, they will have not awareness of it and will therefore be unable to avoid passing it on. It is absolutely urgent that people become aware of the degree to which this disrespect of children is persistently transmitted from one generation to the next, perpetuating destructive behavior. Someone who slaps or hits another adult or knowingly insults her is aware of hurting her. Even if he doesn’t know why he is doing this, he has some sense of what he is doing. But how often were our parents, and we ourselves toward our own children, unconscious of how painfully, deeply, and abidingly they and we injured a child’s tender, budding self?”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alice-miller-the-drama-of-the-gifted-child/because-the-victims-are-only-children-their-distress-is-trivialized/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5dd/alice-miller-the-drama-of-the_abuse_because-the-victims-are-only-children-th_1137140.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5dd/alice-miller-the-drama-of-the_abuse_because-the-victims-are-only-children-th_1137140.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5dd/alice-miller-the-drama-of-the_abuse_because-the-victims-are-only-children-th_1137140.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“Because the victims are “only children,” their distress is trivialized. But in twenty years’ time these…” — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 3, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“In some instances, even when crisis intervention has been intensive and appropriate, the mother and daughter are already so deeply estranged at the time of disclosure that the bond between them seems irreparable. In this situation, no useful purpose is served by trying to separate the mother and father and keep the daughter at home. The daughter has already been emotionally expelled from her family; removing her to protective custody is simply the concrete expression of the family reality. These are the cases which many agencies call their “tragedies.” This report of a child protective worker illustrates a case where removing the child from the home was the only reasonable course of action: Division of Family and Children’s Services received an anonymous telephone call on Sept. 14 from a man who stated that he overheard Tracy W., age 8, of [address] tell his daughter of a forced oral-genital assault, allegedly perpetrated against this child by her mother’s boyfriend, one Raymond S. Two workers visited the W. home on Sept. 17. According to their report, Mrs. W. was heavily under the influence of alcohol at the time of the visit. Mrs. W. stated immediately that she was aware why the two workers wanted to see her, because Mr. S. had “hurt her little girl.” In the course of the interview, Mrs. W. acknowledged and described how Mr. S. had forced Tracy to have relations with him. Workers then interviewed Tracy and she verified what mother had stated. According to Mrs. W., Mr. S. admitted the sexual assault, claiming that he was drunk and not accountable for his actions. Mother then stated to workers that she banished Mr. S. from her home. I had my first contact with mother and child at their home on Sept. 20 and I subsequently saw this family once a week. Mother was usually intoxicated and drinking beer when I saw her. I met Mr. S. on my second visit. Mr. S. denied having had any sexual relations with Tracy. Mother explained that she had obtained a license and planned to marry Mr. S. On my third visit, Mrs. W. was again intoxicated and drinking despite my previous request that she not drink during my visit. Mother explained that Mr. S. had taken off to another state and she never wanted to see him again. On this visit mother demanded that Tracy tell me the details of her sexual involvement with Mr. S. On my fourth visit, Mr. S. and Mrs. S. were present. Mother explained that they had been married the previous Saturday. On my fifth visit, Mr. S. was not present. During our discussion, mother commented that “Bay was not the first one who had Tracy.” After exploring this statement with mother and Tracy, it became clear that Tracy had been sexually exploited in the same manner at age six by another of Mrs. S.'s previous boyfriends. On my sixth visit, Mrs. S. stated that she could accept Tracy’s being placed with another family as long as it did not appear to Tracy that it was her mother’s decision to give her up. Mother also commented, “I wish the fuck I never had her.” It appears that Mrs. S. has had a number of other children all of whom have lived with other relatives or were in foster care for part of their lives. Tracy herself lived with a paternal aunt from birth to age five.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Judith Lewis Herman" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/judith-lewis-herman/in-some-instances-even-when-crisis-intervention-has-been-intensive/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/7b3/judith-lewis-herman-19218_abusive-men_in-some-instances-even-when-crisis-inter_2475290.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/7b3/judith-lewis-herman-19218_abusive-men_in-some-instances-even-when-crisis-inter_2475290.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/7b3/judith-lewis-herman-19218_abusive-men_in-some-instances-even-when-crisis-inter_2475290.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“In some instances, even when crisis intervention has been intensive and appropriate, the mother and daughter…” — Judith Lewis Herman", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 4, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“Early relational trauma results from the fact that we are often given more to experience in this life than we can bear to experience consciously. This problem has been around since the beginning of time, but it is especially acute in early childhood where, because of the immaturity of the psyche and/or brain, we are ill-equipped to metabolize our experience. An infant or young child who is abused, violated or seriously neglected by a caretaking adult is overwhelmed by intolerable affects that are impossible for it to metabolize, much less understand or even think about.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Donald Kalsched" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/donald-kalsched/early-relational-trauma-results-from-the-fact-that-we-are-often-given/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b4a/donald-kalsched-233355_brain_early-relational-trauma-results-from-the_2579485.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b4a/donald-kalsched-233355_brain_early-relational-trauma-results-from-the_2579485.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b4a/donald-kalsched-233355_brain_early-relational-trauma-results-from-the_2579485.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“Early relational trauma results from the fact that we are often given more to experience in this life than…” — Donald Kalsched", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 5, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“Last night I dreamt Moses and I were rowing underwater. We could breathe and talk to one another. We rowed past schools of fish and sea anemones and Moses named them for me.” —Jules Finn”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "J. Dylan Yates" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/j-dylan-yates/last-night-i-dreamt-moses-and-i-were-rowing-underwater-we-could/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/78a/j-dylan-yates-244360_60-s_last-night-i-dreamt-moses-and-i-were-row_2848778.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/78a/j-dylan-yates-244360_60-s_last-night-i-dreamt-moses-and-i-were-row_2848778.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/78a/j-dylan-yates-244360_60-s_last-night-i-dreamt-moses-and-i-were-row_2848778.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“Last night I dreamt Moses and I were rowing underwater. We could breathe and talk to one another. We rowed…” — J. 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Of course I was still very much a lonely unsupported child myself when I got pregnant - one who had never been nurtured or mothered and as such I struggled with the responsibilities of parenthood.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Jane Hersey" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jane-hersey/as-i-grew-into-womanhood-my-confusion-at-the-world-became-more/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/cae/jane-hersey-68717_child-neglect_as-i-grew-into-womanhood-my-confusion-at_3072023.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/cae/jane-hersey-68717_child-neglect_as-i-grew-into-womanhood-my-confusion-at_3072023.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/cae/jane-hersey-68717_child-neglect_as-i-grew-into-womanhood-my-confusion-at_3072023.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“As I grew into womanhood my confusion at the world became more apparent. 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