--- title: "3 Butch Quotes By S. Bear Bergman" description: "3 Butch quotes by S. Bear Bergman. Plus more from S. Bear Bergman and more Butch sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/dae/s-bear-bergman-38810_apology_when-people-speak-admiringly-of-a-butch_321057.jpg" --- > [When people speak admiringly of a butch, what I see is someone who has taken on the best gendered characteristics of both…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/s-bear-bergman/when-people-speak-admiringly-of-a-butch-what-i-see-is-someone-who-has/) [S. Bear Bergman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/s-bear-bergman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/dae/s-bear-bergman-38810_apology_when-people-speak-admiringly-of-a-butch_321057.jpg) > [“I don't switch much, don't really want many people to fuck me, because there's a whole code, unwritten but no less rigid…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/s-bear-bergman/i-don-t-switch-much-don-t-really-want-many-people-to-fuck-me-because/) [S. Bear Bergman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/s-bear-bergman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1ff/s-bear-bergman-38810_butch_i-don-t-switch-much-don-t-really-want-ma_1970891.jpg) > [“I had great femme mentors, I had good role models of gentle men, I found ways to be a butch that did…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/s-bear-bergman/i-had-great-femme-mentors-i-had-good-role-models-of-gentle-men-i/) [S. Bear Bergman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/s-bear-bergman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/229/s-bear-bergman-38810_butch_i-had-great-femme-mentors-i-had-good-rol_2121788.jpg) ## Other authors on Butch ## More by S. Bear Bergman > [Remember - the fault is in the garment, certainly not the girl. There is nothing whatsoever wrong with the shape of her. Some designers…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/s-bear-bergman/remember-the-fault-is-in-the-garment-certainly-not-the-girl-there-is/) [S. Bear Bergman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/s-bear-bergman/) > [When people speak admiringly of a butch, what I see is someone who has taken on the best gendered characteristics of both woman and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/s-bear-bergman/when-people-speak-admiringly-of-a-butch-what-i-see-is-someone-who-has/) [S. Bear Bergman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/s-bear-bergman/) > [“A real friend, he'd say, is the one who, when you say you need for them to kill someone for you, asks only, "And…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/s-bear-bergman/a-real-friend-he-d-say-is-the-one-who-when-you-say-you-need-for-them/) [S. Bear Bergman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/s-bear-bergman/) > [“As she began to speak she stood and started to wrap herself, expertly, creating a binding in minutes that held without a wrinkle until…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/s-bear-bergman/as-she-began-to-speak-she-stood-and-started-to-wrap-herself-expertly/) [S. Bear Bergman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/s-bear-bergman/) > [“I am doing the best I can. I am hoping I am good enough. I am holding you close, as close as I can,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/s-bear-bergman/i-am-doing-the-best-i-can-i-am-hoping-i-am-good-enough-i-am-holding/) [S. Bear Bergman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/s-bear-bergman/) > [One bright pansy popping through a sidewalk crack will get weeded or stepped on; it's not until twenty fabulous flowers bust through and the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/s-bear-bergman/one-bright-pansy-popping-through-a-sidewalk-crack-will-get-weeded-or/) [S. Bear Bergman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/s-bear-bergman/) > [“I don't switch much, don't really want many people to fuck me, because there's a whole code, unwritten but no less rigid than if…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/s-bear-bergman/i-don-t-switch-much-don-t-really-want-many-people-to-fuck-me-because/) [S. Bear Bergman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/s-bear-bergman/) > [“I had great femme mentors, I had good role models of gentle men, I found ways to be a butch that did not require…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/s-bear-bergman/i-had-great-femme-mentors-i-had-good-role-models-of-gentle-men-i/) [S. Bear Bergman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/s-bear-bergman/) > [So please, for the love of gender- go bloom. Or water someone else while they do.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/s-bear-bergman/so-please-for-the-love-of-gender-go-bloom-or-water-someone-else-while/) [S. Bear Bergman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/s-bear-bergman/) > [“I have a whole set of problem-solving behaviors and I am anxious to use them, in much the same way that I would stand…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/s-bear-bergman/i-have-a-whole-set-of-problem-solving-behaviors-and-i-am-anxious-to/) [S. Bear Bergman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/s-bear-bergman/) > [“You do not see deviantly gendered people walking around with Nalgene bottles, getting our sixty-four recommended ounces as we go through our days. I…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/s-bear-bergman/you-do-not-see-deviantly-gendered-people-walking-around-with-nalgene/) [S. Bear Bergman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/s-bear-bergman/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/butch/s-bear-bergman/#itemlist", "name": "3 Butch Quotes By S. 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