--- title: "4 Blaming Quotes By Pema Chödrön" description: "4 Blaming quotes by Pema Chödrön. Plus more from Pema Chödrön and more Blaming sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/015/pema-ch-dr-n-327_blame_we-habitually-erect-a-barrier-called-bla_659083.png" --- > [“We habitually erect a barrier called blame that keeps us from communicating genuinely with others, and we fortify it with our concepts…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/we-habitually-erect-a-barrier-called-blame-that-keeps-us-from/) [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/015/pema-ch-dr-n-327_blame_we-habitually-erect-a-barrier-called-bla_659083.png) > [Blaming is a way to protect your heart, trying to protect what is soft and open and tender in yourself.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/blaming-is-a-way-to-protect-your-heart-trying-to-protect-what-is-soft/) [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d51/pema-ch-dr-n-327_blame_blaming-is-a-way-to-protect-your-heart-t_1045981.png) > [“Blaming is a way to protect our hearts, to try to protect what is soft and open and tender in ourselves.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/blaming-is-a-way-to-protect-our-hearts-to-try-to-protect-what-is-soft/) [Pema Chödrön](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/55d/pema-ch-dr-n-327_blaming_blaming-is-a-way-to-protect-our-hearts-t_1120124.png) > [You could begin to notice whenever you find yourself blaming others or justifying yourself. If you spent the rest of your life…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/you-could-begin-to-notice-whenever-you-find-yourself-blaming-others/) [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8d6/pema-ch-dr-n-327_blame_you-could-begin-to-notice-whenever-you-f_3084393.jpg) ## Other authors on Blaming ## More by Pema Chödrön > [“LIFE’S work is to wake up, to let the things that enter into your life wake you up rather than put you to sleep.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/life-s-work-is-to-wake-up-to-let-the-things-that-enter-into-your-life/) [Pema Chödrön](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) > [Since death is certain and the time of death is uncertain, what is the most important thing?](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/since-death-is-certain-and-the-time-of-death-is-uncertain-what-is-the/) [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) > [Buddhist words such as compassion and emptiness don't mean much until we start cultivating our innate ability simply to be there with pain with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/buddhist-words-such-as-compassion-and-emptiness-don-t-mean-much-until/) [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) > [The essence of generosity is letting go. Pain is always a sign that we are holding on to something - usually ourselves.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/the-essence-of-generosity-is-letting-go-pain-is-always-a-sign-that-we/) [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) > [“If the object of meditation were something concrete, something solid and graspable - an image or a statue or a dot on the floor…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/if-the-object-of-meditation-were-something-concrete-something-solid/) [Pema Chödrön](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) > [It's a transformative experience to simply pause instead of immediately fill up the space. By waiting, we begin to connect with fundamental restlessness as…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/it-s-a-transformative-experience-to-simply-pause-instead-of/) [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) > [“The essence of life is that it’s challenging. Sometimes it is sweet, and sometimes it is bitter. Sometimes your body tenses, and sometimes it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/the-essence-of-life-is-that-it-s-challenging-sometimes-it-is-sweet/) [Pema Chödrön](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) > [If we run a hundred miles an hour to the other end of the continent in order to get away from the obstacle, we…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/if-we-run-a-hundred-miles-an-hour-to-the-other-end-of-the-continent/) [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) > [“But in this meditation technique, we are with the out-breath; there's no particular instruction about what to do until the next out-breath.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/but-in-this-meditation-technique-we-are-with-the-out-breath-there-s/) [Pema Chödrön](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) > [“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know. Nothing ever really attacks us except our own confusion. Perhaps…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/nothing-ever-goes-away-until-it-has-taught-us-what-we-need-to-know/) [Pema Chödrön](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) > [So even if the hot loneliness is there, and for 1.6 seconds we sit with that restlessness when yesterday we couldn't sit for even…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/so-even-if-the-hot-loneliness-is-there-and-for-1-6-seconds-we-sit/) [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) > [If you have rage and righteously act it out and blame it all on others, it's really you who suffers. The other people and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/if-you-have-rage-and-righteously-act-it-out-and-blame-it-all-on/) [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) > [“When we realize that the path is the goal, there’s a sense of workability. Trungpa Rinpoche said, “Whatever occurs in the confused mind is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/when-we-realize-that-the-path-is-the-goal-there-s-a-sense-of/) [Pema Chödrön](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) > [Every day is a new opportunity to work with what you have inside toward enlightenment.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/every-day-is-a-new-opportunity-to-work-with-what-you-have-inside/) [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) > [If someone comes along and shoots an arrow into your heart, it’s fruitless to stand there and yell at the person. It would be…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/if-someone-comes-along-and-shoots-an-arrow-into-your-heart-it-s/) [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/blaming/pema-ch-dr-n/#itemlist", "name": "4 Blaming Quotes By Pema Chödrön", "numberOfItems": 4, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“We habitually erect a barrier called blame that keeps us from communicating genuinely with others, and we fortify it with our concepts of who's right and who's wrong. We do that with the people who are closest to us and we do it with political systems, with all kinds of things that we don't like about our associates or our society. It is a very common, ancient, well-perfected device for trying to feel better. 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