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> [“It is so tempting to blame those with whom we are in conflict. Who started the argument, after all, if it wasn’t the other person? Blaming makes us feel innocent. We are the ones who were wronged. We get to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/william-ury/it-is-so-tempting-to-blame-those-with-whom-we-are-in-conflict-who/)

[William Ury](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/william-ury/)

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