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> [“They behave towards their therapists as they perceive themselves to have been treated by their absent parents. They make their therapists feel very fully what it is like to be discarded, ignored, despised, helpless or even unreal and non-existent. (...)…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ved-p-varma/they-behave-towards-their-therapists-as-they-perceive-themselves-to/)

[Ved P. Varma](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ved-p-varma/)

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## More by Ved P. Varma

> [“Winnicott talks about how ‘mothers do in one way or another identify themselves with the baby growing within them, and in this way they…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ved-p-varma/winnicott-talks-about-how-mothers-do-in-one-way-or-another-identify/)

[Ved P. Varma](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ved-p-varma/)

> [“Some patients who are profoundly multiply disabled are incontinent, smear faeces, cut themselves, dribble, smell, spit, bite, eat mucous, pull their hair, poke their…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ved-p-varma/some-patients-who-are-profoundly-multiply-disabled-are-incontinent/)

[Ved P. Varma](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ved-p-varma/)

> [“Although there are areas of overlap between working with psychotic and borderline children and with severely deprived children, some of the stresses involved are…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ved-p-varma/although-there-are-areas-of-overlap-between-working-with-psychotic/)

[Ved P. Varma](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ved-p-varma/)

> [“Hearing directly from a person who has been hurt in a profound way gives the listener a secondary trauma. When a Swedish colleague, Anders…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ved-p-varma/hearing-directly-from-a-person-who-has-been-hurt-in-a-profound-way/)

[Ved P. Varma](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ved-p-varma/)

> [“Every therapist will, over the course of his career, encounter a patient whose problem sufficiently mirrors a difficulty for the therapist which is still…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ved-p-varma/every-therapist-will-over-the-course-of-his-career-encounter-a/)

[Ved P. Varma](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ved-p-varma/)

> [“He came to believe that, in addition to getting rid of parts of the self, projective identification was sometimes the only way in which…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ved-p-varma/he-came-to-believe-that-in-addition-to-getting-rid-of-parts-of-the/)

[Ved P. Varma](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ved-p-varma/)

> [“If, for example, it is the weak, defenceless, vulnerable part of the self which cannot be tolerated, than this will tend to be split…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ved-p-varma/if-for-example-it-is-the-weak-defenceless-vulnerable-part-of-the-self/)

[Ved P. Varma](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ved-p-varma/)

> [“They behave towards their therapists as they perceive themselves to have been treated by their absent parents. They make their therapists feel very fully…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ved-p-varma/they-behave-towards-their-therapists-as-they-perceive-themselves-to/)

[Ved P. Varma](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ved-p-varma/)

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