--- title: "4 Be a man Quotes By Frank Pittman" description: "4 Be a man quotes by Frank Pittman. Plus more from Frank Pittman and more Be a man sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/066/frank-pittman-8860_be-a-man_the-mother-must-teach-her-son-how-to-res_266000.jpg" --- > [The mother must teach her son how to respect and follow the rules. She must teach him how to compete successfully with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/the-mother-must-teach-her-son-how-to-respect-and-follow-the-rules-she/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/066/frank-pittman-8860_be-a-man_the-mother-must-teach-her-son-how-to-res_266000.jpg) > [Most of us have felt barriers between ourselves and our fathers and had thought that going it alone was part of what…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/most-of-us-have-felt-barriers-between-ourselves-and-our-fathers-and/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e69/frank-pittman-8860_barriers_most-of-us-have-felt-barriers-between-ou_967875.png) > [What we men share is the experience of having been raised by women in a culture that stopped our fathers from being…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/what-we-men-share-is-the-experience-of-having-been-raised-by-women-in/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f49/frank-pittman-8860_be-a-man_what-we-men-share-is-the-experience-of-h_1499503.jpg) > [All those tough guys who want to scare the world into seeing them as men . . . who don't know how…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/all-those-tough-guys-who-want-to-scare-the-world-into-seeing-them-as/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/01a/frank-pittman-8860_be-a-man_all-those-tough-guys-who-want-to-scare-t_1663412.png) ## Other authors on Be a man ## More by Frank Pittman > [In colonial America, the father was the primary parent. . . . Over the past two hundred years, each generation of fathers has hadless…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/in-colonial-america-the-father-was-the-primary-parent-over-the-past/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) > [We long for our father. We wear his clothes, and actually try to fill his shoes. . . . We hang on to him,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/we-long-for-our-father-we-wear-his-clothes-and-actually-try-to-fill/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) > [Our ability to fall in love requires enough comfort with our masculinity to join it with someone's femininity and feel enhanced. .. . If…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/our-ability-to-fall-in-love-requires-enough-comfort-with-our/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) > [The mother must teach her son how to respect and follow the rules. She must teach him how to compete successfully with the other…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/the-mother-must-teach-her-son-how-to-respect-and-follow-the-rules-she/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) > [Parents can fail to cheer your successes as wildly as you expected, pointing out that you are sharing your Nobel Prize with a couple…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/parents-can-fail-to-cheer-your-successes-as-wildly-as-you-expected/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) > [Every boy was supposed to come into the world equipped with a father whose prime function was to be our father and show us…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/every-boy-was-supposed-to-come-into-the-world-equipped-with-a-father/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) > [At the heart of male bonding is this experience of boys in early puberty: they know they must break free from their mothers and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/at-the-heart-of-male-bonding-is-this-experience-of-boys-in-early/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) > [We know how powerful our mother was when we were little, but is our wife that powerful to us now? Must we relive our…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/we-know-how-powerful-our-mother-was-when-we-were-little-but-is-our/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) > [Mothers who are strong people, who can pursue a life of their own when it is time to let their children go, empower their…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/mothers-who-are-strong-people-who-can-pursue-a-life-of-their-own-when/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) > [Fidelity is the single most important element in solidly enduring marriages.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/fidelity-is-the-single-most-important-element-in-solidly-enduring/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) > [Some parents were awful back then and are awful still. The process of raising you didn't turn them into grown-ups. Parents who were clearly…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/some-parents-were-awful-back-then-and-are-awful-still-the-process-of/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) > [To insult a friend implies that you respect his masculinity enough to know he can take it without acting like a crybaby. The swapping…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/to-insult-a-friend-implies-that-you-respect-his-masculinity-enough-to/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) > [Fathering is not something perfect men do, but something that perfects the man.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/fathering-is-not-something-perfect-men-do-but-something-that-perfects/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) > [Happy people learn that happiness, like sweat, is a by-product of activity.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/happy-people-learn-that-happiness-like-sweat-is-a-by-product-of/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) > [In time, after a dozen years of centering their lives around the games boys play with one another, the boys' bodies change and that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-pittman/in-time-after-a-dozen-years-of-centering-their-lives-around-the-games/) [Frank Pittman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-pittman/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/be-a-man/frank-pittman/#itemlist", "name": "4 Be a man Quotes By Frank Pittman", "numberOfItems": 4, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "The mother must teach her son how to respect and follow the rules. 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