--- title: "15 Asian Parents Quotes by 12 authors" description: "Browse 15 Asian Parents quotes by 12 authors. Discover the best Asian Parents sayings and thoughts." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4c8/justin-lin-4717_asian_my-parents-were-unconventional-for-asian_268316.jpg" --- > [My parents were unconventional for Asian parents.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/justin-lin/my-parents-were-unconventional-for-asian-parents/) [Justin Lin](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/justin-lin/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4c8/justin-lin-4717_asian_my-parents-were-unconventional-for-asian_268316.jpg) > [All Asian parents are into your children having a respectable, decent stable job. Acting was unimaginable to my parents.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/joan-chen/all-asian-parents-are-into-your-children-having-a-respectable-decent/) [Joan Chen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/joan-chen/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/918/joan-chen-13493_acting_all-asian-parents-are-into-your-children_2434989.png) > [Asian parents generally tend to channel their children, especially their daughters, into studying and not sport.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/isa-guha/asian-parents-generally-tend-to-channel-their-children-especially/) [Isa Guha](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/isa-guha/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/92c/isa-guha-7104_asian_asian-parents-generally-tend-to-channel_1198635.jpg) > [I went to college as an economics major because that was the easiest major that could still please your Asian parents, and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jimmy-o-yang/i-went-to-college-as-an-economics-major-because-that-was-the-easiest/) [Jimmy O. Yang](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jimmy-o-yang/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/37e/jimmy-o-yang-8131_college_i-went-to-college-as-an-economics-major_2929292.jpg) > [To be honest, I know that a lot of Asian parents are secretly shocked and horrified by many aspects of Western parenting.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/amy-chua/to-be-honest-i-know-that-a-lot-of-asian-parents-are-secretly-shocked/) [Amy Chua](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/amy-chua/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f32/amy-chua-6919_asian_to-be-honest-i-know-that-a-lot-of-asian_170533.jpg) > [Like many Asian parents, mine were very focused on education. My dad would quiz me with multiplication tables when I was about 5.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lisa-su/like-many-asian-parents-mine-were-very-focused-on-education-my-dad/) [Lisa Su](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lisa-su/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3fe/lisa-su-9120_asian_like-many-asian-parents-mine-were-very-f_381954.jpg) > [There's this thing where Asian parents force you to play an instrument at an early age, but god forbid you like it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michelle-zauner/there-s-this-thing-where-asian-parents-force-you-to-play-an/) [Michelle Zauner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michelle-zauner/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5ca/michelle-zauner-5132_age_there-s-this-thing-where-asian-parents-f_1987418.jpg) > [When I was little, my parents really only wanted me to be a scientist or a doctor; they had never even heard…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/amy-chua/when-i-was-little-my-parents-really-only-wanted-me-to-be-a-scientist/) [Amy Chua](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/amy-chua/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9a0/amy-chua-6919_artist_when-i-was-little-my-parents-really-only_178379.jpg) > [Westerners often laud their children as 'talented' or 'gifted', while Asian parents highlight the importance of hard work. And in fact, research…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/amy-chua/westerners-often-laud-their-children-as-talented-or-gifted-while/) [Amy Chua](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/amy-chua/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/531/amy-chua-6919_approval_westerners-often-laud-their-children-as_596698.jpg) > [My dad, of course, like a lot of Asian parents, wanted me to be an engineer or doctor and never could understand…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-locke/my-dad-of-course-like-a-lot-of-asian-parents-wanted-me-to-be-an/) [Gary Locke](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-locke/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/943/gary-locke-19131_absolutely_my-dad-of-course-like-a-lot-of-asian-par_1847111.jpg) > [My parents, or Asian parents in general, they're like, 'You should be a doctor, a lawyer, or a banker' - all that's…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/eric-nam/my-parents-or-asian-parents-in-general-they-re-like-you-should-be-a/) [Eric Nam](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/eric-nam/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9c1/eric-nam-7940_banker_my-parents-or-asian-parents-in-general-t_1471812.jpg) > [My parents were typical Asian parents, and they do, like all parents, want their children to be successful. They really encouraged my…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lisa-su/my-parents-were-typical-asian-parents-and-they-do-like-all-parents/) [Lisa Su](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lisa-su/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/51c/lisa-su-9120_brother_my-parents-were-typical-asian-parents-an_2171485.jpg) > [Asian parents, or a lot of parents in general, they have no idea what goes on in this industry. Mine were born…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/manny-jacinto/asian-parents-or-a-lot-of-parents-in-general-they-have-no-idea-what/) [Manny Jacinto](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/manny-jacinto/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1fb/manny-jacinto-53835_born_asian-parents-or-a-lot-of-parents-in-gen_2078640.jpg) > [“Korean-American: Have you ever noticed how most Asian-Americans are slightly brain-damaged from having grown up with Asian parents? It’s like being raised…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jean-lee/korean-american-have-you-ever-noticed-how-most-asian-americans-are/) Jean Lee [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a16/jean-lee-246753_parenting_korean-american-have-you-ever-noticed-ho_2647832.jpg) > [“This kind of parenting was typical in much of Asia—and among Asian immigrant parents living in the United States. Contrary to the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/amanda-ripley/this-kind-of-parenting-was-typical-in-much-of-asia-and-among-asian/) [Amanda Ripley](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/amanda-ripley/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9e9/amanda-ripley-10708_books_this-kind-of-parenting-was-typical-in-mu_2026457.jpg) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/asian-parents/#itemlist", "name": "Asian Parents Quotes", "numberOfItems": 15, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "My parents were unconventional for Asian parents.", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Justin Lin" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/justin-lin/my-parents-were-unconventional-for-asian-parents/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4c8/justin-lin-4717_asian_my-parents-were-unconventional-for-asian_268316.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4c8/justin-lin-4717_asian_my-parents-were-unconventional-for-asian_268316.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4c8/justin-lin-4717_asian_my-parents-were-unconventional-for-asian_268316.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“My parents were unconventional for Asian parents.” — Justin Lin", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "All Asian parents are into your children having a respectable, decent stable job. 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They really encouraged my brother and I to study math and science, and that's what we did as kids.", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Lisa Su" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lisa-su/my-parents-were-typical-asian-parents-and-they-do-like-all-parents/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/51c/lisa-su-9120_brother_my-parents-were-typical-asian-parents-an_2171485.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/51c/lisa-su-9120_brother_my-parents-were-typical-asian-parents-an_2171485.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/51c/lisa-su-9120_brother_my-parents-were-typical-asian-parents-an_2171485.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“My parents were typical Asian parents, and they do, like all parents, want their children to be successful…” — Lisa Su", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 13, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "Asian parents, or a lot of parents in general, they have no idea what goes on in this industry. Mine were born in the Philippines, where it's different, because it is about who you know, and who knows what you have to do to get to the top? So they had a lot of that skepticism.", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Manny Jacinto" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/manny-jacinto/asian-parents-or-a-lot-of-parents-in-general-they-have-no-idea-what/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1fb/manny-jacinto-53835_born_asian-parents-or-a-lot-of-parents-in-gen_2078640.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1fb/manny-jacinto-53835_born_asian-parents-or-a-lot-of-parents-in-gen_2078640.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1fb/manny-jacinto-53835_born_asian-parents-or-a-lot-of-parents-in-gen_2078640.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“Asian parents, or a lot of parents in general, they have no idea what goes on in this industry. Mine were…” — Manny Jacinto", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 14, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“Korean-American: Have you ever noticed how most Asian-Americans are slightly brain-damaged from having grown up with Asian parents? It’s like being raised by monkeys—these retarded monkeys who can barely speak English and who are too evil to understand anything besides conformity and status. Most of us hate these monkeys from an early age and try to learn how to be human from school or television, but the result is always tainted by this subtle or not so subtle retardation. Asian people from Asia are even more brain-damaged, but in a different way, because they are the original monkey.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Jean Lee" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jean-lee/korean-american-have-you-ever-noticed-how-most-asian-americans-are/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a16/jean-lee-246753_parenting_korean-american-have-you-ever-noticed-ho_2647832.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a16/jean-lee-246753_parenting_korean-american-have-you-ever-noticed-ho_2647832.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a16/jean-lee-246753_parenting_korean-american-have-you-ever-noticed-ho_2647832.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“Korean-American: Have you ever noticed how most Asian-Americans are slightly brain-damaged from having grown…” — Jean Lee", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 15, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“This kind of parenting was typical in much of Asia—and among Asian immigrant parents living in the United States. Contrary to the stereotype, it did not necessarily make children miserable. In fact, children raised in this way in the United States tended not only to do better in school but to actually enjoy reading and school more than their Caucasian peers enrolled in the same schools. While American parents gave their kids placemats with numbers on them and called it a day, Asian parents taught their children to add before they could read. They did it systematically and directly, say, from six-thirty to seven each night, with a workbook—not organically, the way many American parents preferred their children to learn math. The coach parent did not necessarily have to earn a lot of money or be highly educated. Nor did a coach parent have to be Asian, needless to say. The research showed that European-American parents who acted more like coaches tended to raise smarter kids, too. Parents who read to their children weekly or daily when they were young raised children who scored twenty-five points higher on PISA by the time they were fifteen years old. That was almost a full year of learning. More affluent parents were more likely to read to their children almost everywhere, but even among families within the same socioeconomic group, parents who read to their children tended to raise kids who scored fourteen points higher on PISA. By contrast, parents who regularly played with alphabet toys with their young children saw no such benefit. And at least one high-impact form of parental involvement did not actually involve kids or schools at all: If parents simply read for pleasure at home on their own, their children were more likely to enjoy reading, too. That pattern held fast across very different countries and different levels of family income. Kids could see what parents valued, and it mattered more than what parents said. Only four in ten parents in the PISA survey regularly read at home for enjoyment. What if they knew that this one change—which they might even vaguely enjoy—would help their children become better readers themselves? What if schools, instead of pleading with parents to donate time, muffins, or money, loaned books and magazines to parents and urged them to read on their own and talk about what they’d read in order to help their kids? The evidence suggested that every parent could do things that helped create strong readers and thinkers, once they knew what those things were. Parents could go too far with the drills and practice in academics, just as they could in sports, and many, many Korean parents did go too far. The opposite was also true. A coddled, moon bounce of a childhood could lead to young adults who had never experienced failure or developed self-control or endurance—experiences that mattered as much or more than academic skills. The evidence suggested that many American parents treated their children as if they were delicate flowers. In one Columbia University study, 85 percent of American parents surveyed said that they thought they needed to praise their children’s intelligence in order to assure them they were smart. However, the actual research on praise suggested the opposite was true. Praise that was vague, insincere, or excessive tended to discourage kids from working hard and trying new things. It had a toxic effect, the opposite of what parents intended. To work, praise had to be specific, authentic, and rare. Yet the same culture of self-esteem boosting extended to many U.S. classrooms.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Amanda Ripley" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/amanda-ripley/this-kind-of-parenting-was-typical-in-much-of-asia-and-among-asian/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9e9/amanda-ripley-10708_books_this-kind-of-parenting-was-typical-in-mu_2026457.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9e9/amanda-ripley-10708_books_this-kind-of-parenting-was-typical-in-mu_2026457.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9e9/amanda-ripley-10708_books_this-kind-of-parenting-was-typical-in-mu_2026457.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“This kind of parenting was typical in much of Asia—and among Asian immigrant parents living in the United…” — Amanda Ripley", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } } ] }, { "@type": "CollectionPage", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/asian-parents/#webpage", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/asian-parents/", "name": "Asian Parents Quotes", "isPartOf": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#website" }, "mainEntity": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/asian-parents/#itemlist" }, "primaryImageOfPage": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4c8/justin-lin-4717_asian_my-parents-were-unconventional-for-asian_268316.jpg" }, "description": "Browse 15 Asian Parents quotes by 12 authors. 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