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title: "2 Anxiety Shame Quotes By Harriet Lerner"
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> [“Everyone freaks out. Sometimes the best we can do with fear is befriend it. Expect it and understand that fear will always reappear. Eventually it subsides. It will return. The real culprits are our knee jerk responses to fear and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/everyone-freaks-out-sometimes-the-best-we-can-do-with-fear-is/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

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> [“When we think of fear, we think of a 'fear of' something. Far more daunting is the challenge of how to conduct ourselves in the dailiness of love and work when anxiety is high and shame kicks in. This is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/when-we-think-of-fear-we-think-of-a-fear-of-something-far-more/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

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## More by Harriet Lerner

> [“Letting go of anger and hate requires us to give up the hope for a different past, along with the hope of a fantasized…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/letting-go-of-anger-and-hate-requires-us-to-give-up-the-hope-for-a/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

> [“There’s a widespread belief that if you have solid self-esteem you don’t need outside affirmation and praise. This is patently untrue, by the way.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/there-s-a-widespread-belief-that-if-you-have-solid-self-esteem-you/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

> [It is an act of courage to acknowledge our own uncertainty and sit with it for a while.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/it-is-an-act-of-courage-to-acknowledge-our-own-uncertainty-and-sit/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

> [Silence can pose a greater threat than the difficult truth.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/silence-can-pose-a-greater-threat-than-the-difficult-truth/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

> [Nothing you say can ensure that the other person will get it, or respond the way you want. You may never exceed his threshold…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/nothing-you-say-can-ensure-that-the-other-person-will-get-it-or/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

> [If you exchanged wedding vows, tape them to your bathroom mirror and read them aloud to yourself every morning along with the ritual brushing…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/if-you-exchanged-wedding-vows-tape-them-to-your-bathroom-mirror-and/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

> [Kids want nothing more than for all the important adults in their life to get along.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/kids-want-nothing-more-than-for-all-the-important-adults-in-their/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

> [“People's sense of self worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they've caused. The more solid one's sense of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/people-s-sense-of-self-worth-is-pivotal-to-their-ability-to-look/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

> [Being able to make a sincere apology - one that says, "Yes, I get it; I screwed up. Your feelings make sense, and I'm…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/being-able-to-make-a-sincere-apology-one-that-says-yes-i-get-it-i/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

> [“Everyone freaks out. Sometimes the best we can do with fear is befriend it. Expect it and understand that fear will always reappear. Eventually…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/everyone-freaks-out-sometimes-the-best-we-can-do-with-fear-is/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

> [The bolder and more courageous you are, the more you will learn about yourself.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/the-bolder-and-more-courageous-you-are-the-more-you-will-learn-about/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

> [Underground issues from one relationship or context invariably fuel our fires in another.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/underground-issues-from-one-relationship-or-context-invariably-fuel/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

> [There are some things for which there is no apology, and on the question of slavery, there is no adequate apology for ripping people…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/there-are-some-things-for-which-there-is-no-apology-and-on-the/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

> [Don't count on the power of your love or your nagging to create something that wasn't there to begin with.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/don-t-count-on-the-power-of-your-love-or-your-nagging-to-create/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

> [If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/harriet-lerner/if-we-only-listened-with-the-same-passion-that-we-feel-about-being/)

[Harriet Lerner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/harriet-lerner/)

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