--- title: "4 Alcoholics Quotes By Gary Chapman" description: "4 Alcoholics quotes by Gary Chapman. Plus more from Gary Chapman and more Alcoholics sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ea6/gary-chapman-1325_abusers_i-hope-the-reader-s-sense-that-i-am-deep_2058749.png" --- > [I hope the reader's sense that I am deeply empathetic with the pain of being in a desperate marriage, but I also…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/i-hope-the-reader-s-sense-that-i-am-deeply-empathetic-with-the-pain/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ea6/gary-chapman-1325_abusers_i-hope-the-reader-s-sense-that-i-am-deep_2058749.png) > [I think one of the other myths is that your environment determines your happiness. That if you are living with an alcoholic…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/i-think-one-of-the-other-myths-is-that-your-environment-determines/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9ca/gary-chapman-1325_alcoholics_i-think-one-of-the-other-myths-is-that-y_2280925.png) > [Very few alcoholics get into a treatment program until they are at the end of the rope, often when they feel like…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/very-few-alcoholics-get-into-a-treatment-program-until-they-are-at/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fbe/gary-chapman-1325_abusive_very-few-alcoholics-get-into-a-treatment_2321769.jpg) > [I think one of the myths is that people don't change. A lot of people believe that. Their spouse has been an…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/i-think-one-of-the-myths-is-that-people-don-t-change-a-lot-of-people/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4b2/gary-chapman-1325_alcoholic_i-think-one-of-the-myths-is-that-people_2373905.jpg) ## Other authors on Alcoholics - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b017/author-mercedes-mccambridge-66655.jpg) Mercedes McCambridge 7 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/alcoholics/mercedes-mccambridge/) - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b019/author-ozzy-osbourne-73020.jpg) Ozzy Osbourne 6 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/alcoholics/ozzy-osbourne/) - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b010/author-george-carlin-37578.jpg) George Carlin 5 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/alcoholics/george-carlin/) - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b006/author-chelsea-handler-22948.jpg) Chelsea Handler 5 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/alcoholics/chelsea-handler/) - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b004/author-augusten-burroughs-15660.jpg) Augusten Burroughs 5 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/alcoholics/augusten-burroughs/) ## More by Gary Chapman > [Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience springtime, with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/marriages-are-always-moving-from-one-season-to-another-sometimes-we/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/something-in-our-nature-cries-out-to-be-loved-by-another-isolation-is/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/most-of-us-have-more-potential-than-we-will-ever-develop-what-holds/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the den and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/on-the-other-hand-if-i-walk-in-the-house-i-don-t-even-bother-to-find/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [“I look for three things in hiring people. The first is personal integrity, the second is intelligence, and the third is a high energy…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/i-look-for-three-things-in-hiring-people-the-first-is-personal/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/love-is-always-freely-given-love-cannot-be-demanded-we-can-request/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [“Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/psychologist-william-james-said-that-possibly-the-deepest-human-need/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [I think that in today's world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/i-think-that-in-today-s-world-by-nature-we-are-all-self-centered-and/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you are going…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/sometimes-when-the-spouse-is-really-the-culprit-it-is-hard-to-admit/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide me with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/there-is-a-third-truth-which-only-the-mature-lover-will-be-able-to/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [ The getting out part \[of advise\] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/the-getting-out-part-of-advise-may-well-be-true-because-if-you-have/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [ I wrote this book \[ Desperate Marriages\] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage.… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/i-wrote-this-book-desperate-marriages-because-of-my-own-marriage-my/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [As a senior in high school, I had a strong sense that God wanted me in some kind of ministry.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/as-a-senior-in-high-school-i-had-a-strong-sense-that-god-wanted-me-in/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [We all desperately need love. If a spouse in a difficult marriage will learn the love language of that spouse, and they will, with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/we-all-desperately-need-love-if-a-spouse-in-a-difficult-marriage-will/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [“If acts of service do not come naturally for you, it is still a love language worth acquiring. It is a way of expressing…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/if-acts-of-service-do-not-come-naturally-for-you-it-is-still-a-love/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/alcoholics/gary-chapman/#itemlist", "name": "4 Alcoholics Quotes By Gary Chapman", "numberOfItems": 4, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "I hope the reader's sense that I am deeply empathetic with the pain of being in a desperate marriage, but I also believe that the person who is married to the abuser or the alcoholic or whomever has the greatest potential for helping them.", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Gary Chapman" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/i-hope-the-reader-s-sense-that-i-am-deeply-empathetic-with-the-pain/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ea6/gary-chapman-1325_abusers_i-hope-the-reader-s-sense-that-i-am-deep_2058749.png", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ea6/gary-chapman-1325_abusers_i-hope-the-reader-s-sense-that-i-am-deep_2058749.png", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ea6/gary-chapman-1325_abusers_i-hope-the-reader-s-sense-that-i-am-deep_2058749.png", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“I hope the reader's sense that I am deeply empathetic with the pain of being in a desperate marriage, but I…” — Gary Chapman", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "I think one of the other myths is that your environment determines your happiness. 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