--- title: "10 Abusive Quotes By Lundy Bancroft" description: "10 Abusive quotes by Lundy Bancroft. Plus more from Lundy Bancroft and more Abusive sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/472/lundy-bancroft-6837_abusive_one-of-the-prevalent-features-of-life-wi_498130.jpg" --- > [One of the prevalent features of life with an angry or controlling partner is that he frequently tells you what you should…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/one-of-the-prevalent-features-of-life-with-an-angry-or-controlling/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/472/lundy-bancroft-6837_abusive_one-of-the-prevalent-features-of-life-wi_498130.jpg) > [Abuse counselors say of the abusive client: “When he looks at himself in the morning and sees his dirty face, he sets…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/abuse-counselors-say-of-the-abusive-client-when-he-looks-at-himself/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e7d/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_abuse-counselors-say-of-the-abusive-clie_1192436.jpg) > [“Our society should not buy into the abusive man's claim that holding him accountable is an act of cruelty.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/our-society-should-not-buy-into-the-abusive-man-s-claim-that-holding/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/327/lundy-bancroft-6837_abusive_our-society-should-not-buy-into-the-abus_2424920.jpg) > [The central attitudes driving the Water Torturer are: You are crazy. You fly off the handle over nothing. I can easily convince…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-central-attitudes-driving-the-water-torturer-are-you-are-crazy/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e1b/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_the-central-attitudes-driving-the-water_2452096.jpg) > [“Although the typical abusive man works to maintain a positive public image, it is true that some women have abusive partners who…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/although-the-typical-abusive-man-works-to-maintain-a-positive-public/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c33/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_although-the-typical-abusive-man-works-t_1900379.jpg) > [“One of the obstacles to recognizing chronic mistreatment in relationships is that most abusive men simply don’t seem like abusers. They have…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/one-of-the-obstacles-to-recognizing-chronic-mistreatment-in/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3cd/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_one-of-the-obstacles-to-recognizing-chro_2264714.jpg) > [“The abusive man’s high entitlement leads him to have unfair and unreasonable expectations, so that the relationship revolves around his demands. His…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-abusive-man-s-high-entitlement-leads-him-to-have-unfair-and/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/650/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_the-abusive-man-s-high-entitlement-leads_1858991.jpg) > [“It is important to note that research has shown that men who have abusive mothers do not tend to develop especially negative…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/it-is-important-to-note-that-research-has-shown-that-men-who-have/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/522/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_it-is-important-to-note-that-research-ha_2157705.jpg) > [“THE MYTHS ABOUT ABUSERS 1. He was abused as a child. 2. His previous partner hurt him. 3. He abuses those he…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-myths-about-abusers-1-he-was-abused-as-a-child-2-his-previous/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/cec/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_the-myths-about-abusers-1-he-was-abused_3129746.jpg) > [“The woman knows from living with the abusive man that there are no simple answers. Friends say: “He’s mean.” But she knows…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-woman-knows-from-living-with-the-abusive-man-that-there-are-no/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/145/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_the-woman-knows-from-living-with-the-abu_103780.jpg) ## More by Lundy Bancroft > [But whether you stay or go, the critical decision you can make is to stop letting your partner distort the lens of your life,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/but-whether-you-stay-or-go-the-critical-decision-you-can-make-is-to/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“On some level he hopes that his ability to transport you sexually will tie you to him, so that he can have power over…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/on-some-level-he-hopes-that-his-ability-to-transport-you-sexually/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“When people conclude that anger causes abuse, they are confusing cause and effect. Ray was not abusive because he was angry; he was angry…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/when-people-conclude-that-anger-causes-abuse-they-are-confusing-cause/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“Abuse doesn’t come from people’s inability to resolve conflicts but from one person’s decision to claim a higher status than another. So while it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/abuse-doesn-t-come-from-people-s-inability-to-resolve-conflicts-but/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [Few people are aware of the severe human rights violations committed daily by family court judges across the country. These courts are siding over…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/few-people-are-aware-of-the-severe-human-rights-violations-committed/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“The woman knows from living with the abusive man that there are no simple answers. Friends say: “He’s mean.” But she knows many ways…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-woman-knows-from-living-with-the-abusive-man-that-there-are-no/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“In short, the abusive mentality is the mentality of oppression.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/in-short-the-abusive-mentality-is-the-mentality-of-oppression/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“When we hear these kinds of excuses from a drunk, we assume they are exactly that—excuses. We don’t consider an active alcoholic a reliable…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/when-we-hear-these-kinds-of-excuses-from-a-drunk-we-assume-they-are/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“Abuse is not his goal, but control is, and he finds himself using abuse to gain the control he feels he has a right…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/abuse-is-not-his-goal-but-control-is-and-he-finds-himself-using-abuse/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“The central attitudes driving Rambo are: Strength and aggressiveness are good; compassion and conflict resolution are bad. Anything that could be even remotely associated…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-central-attitudes-driving-rambo-are-strength-and-aggressiveness/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“HE ISN’T ABUSIVE BECAUSE HE IS ANGRY; HE’S ANGRY BECAUSE HE’S ABUSIVE.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/he-isn-t-abusive-because-he-is-angry-he-s-angry-because-he-s-abusive/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“The symptoms of abuse are there, and the woman usually sees them: the escalating frequency of put-downs. Early generosity turning more and more to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-symptoms-of-abuse-are-there-and-the-woman-usually-sees-them-the/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“ALCOHOL HAS NO BIOLOGICAL CONNECTION TO ABUSE OR VIOLENCE Alcohol does not directly make people belligerent, aggressive, or violent. There is evidence that certain…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/alcohol-has-no-biological-connection-to-abuse-or-violence-alcohol/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“The central attitudes driving the Terrorist are: You have no right to defy me or leave me. Your life is in my hands. Women…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-central-attitudes-driving-the-terrorist-are-you-have-no-right-to/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“Boys’ aggressiveness is increasingly being treated as a medical problem, particularly in schools, a trend that has led to the diagnosing and medicating of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/boys-aggressiveness-is-increasingly-being-treated-as-a-medical/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/abusive/lundy-bancroft/#itemlist", "name": "10 Abusive Quotes By Lundy Bancroft", "numberOfItems": 10, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "One of the prevalent features of life with an angry or controlling partner is that he frequently tells you what you should think and tries to get you to doubt or devalue your own perceptions and beliefs.", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Lundy Bancroft" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/one-of-the-prevalent-features-of-life-with-an-angry-or-controlling/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/472/lundy-bancroft-6837_abusive_one-of-the-prevalent-features-of-life-wi_498130.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/472/lundy-bancroft-6837_abusive_one-of-the-prevalent-features-of-life-wi_498130.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/472/lundy-bancroft-6837_abusive_one-of-the-prevalent-features-of-life-wi_498130.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“One of the prevalent features of life with an angry or controlling partner is that he frequently tells you…” — Lundy Bancroft", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "Abuse counselors say of the abusive client: “When he looks at himself in the morning and sees his dirty face, he sets about washing the mirror.", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Lundy Bancroft" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/abuse-counselors-say-of-the-abusive-client-when-he-looks-at-himself/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e7d/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_abuse-counselors-say-of-the-abusive-clie_1192436.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e7d/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_abuse-counselors-say-of-the-abusive-clie_1192436.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e7d/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_abuse-counselors-say-of-the-abusive-clie_1192436.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“Abuse counselors say of the abusive client: “When he looks at himself in the morning and sees his dirty…” — Lundy Bancroft", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 3, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“Our society should not buy into the abusive man's claim that holding him accountable is an act of cruelty.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Lundy Bancroft" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/our-society-should-not-buy-into-the-abusive-man-s-claim-that-holding/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/327/lundy-bancroft-6837_abusive_our-society-should-not-buy-into-the-abus_2424920.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/327/lundy-bancroft-6837_abusive_our-society-should-not-buy-into-the-abus_2424920.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/327/lundy-bancroft-6837_abusive_our-society-should-not-buy-into-the-abus_2424920.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“Our society should not buy into the abusive man's claim that holding him accountable is an act of cruelty.” — Lundy Bancroft", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 4, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "The central attitudes driving the Water Torturer are: You are crazy. 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His attitude is: “You owe me.” For each ounce he gives, he wants a pound in return. He wants his partner to devote herself fully to catering to him, even if it means that her own needs—or her children’s—get neglected. You can pour all your energy into keeping your partner content, but if he has this mind-set, he’ll never be satisfied for long. 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So while a small number of abusive men do hate women, the great majority exhibit a more subtle—though often quite pervasive—sense of superiority or contempt toward females, and some don’t show any obvious signs of problems with women at all until they are in a serious relationship.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Lundy Bancroft" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/it-is-important-to-note-that-research-has-shown-that-men-who-have/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/522/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_it-is-important-to-note-that-research-ha_2157705.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/522/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_it-is-important-to-note-that-research-ha_2157705.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/522/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_it-is-important-to-note-that-research-ha_2157705.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“It is important to note that research has shown that men who have abusive mothers do not tend to develop…” — Lundy Bancroft", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 9, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“THE MYTHS ABOUT ABUSERS 1. He was abused as a child. 2. His previous partner hurt him. 3. He abuses those he loves the most. 4. He holds in his feelings too much. 5. He has an aggressive personality. 6. He loses control. 7. He is too angry. 8. He is mentally ill. 9. He hates women. 10. He is afraid of intimacy and abandonment. 11. He has low self-esteem. 12. His boss mistreats him. 13. He has poor skills in communication and conflict resolution. 14. There are as many abusive women as abusive men. 15. His abusiveness is as bad for him as for his partner. 16. He is a victim of racism. 17. He abuses alcohol or drugs.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Lundy Bancroft" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-myths-about-abusers-1-he-was-abused-as-a-child-2-his-previous/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/cec/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_the-myths-about-abusers-1-he-was-abused_3129746.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/cec/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_the-myths-about-abusers-1-he-was-abused_3129746.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/cec/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_the-myths-about-abusers-1-he-was-abused_3129746.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“THE MYTHS ABOUT ABUSERS 1. He was abused as a child. 2. His previous partner hurt him. 3. He abuses those he…” — Lundy Bancroft", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 10, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“The woman knows from living with the abusive man that there are no simple answers. Friends say: “He’s mean.” But she knows many ways in which he has been good to her. Friends say: “He treats you that way because he can get away with it. I would never let someone treat me that way.” But she knows that the times when she puts her foot down the most firmly, he responds by becoming his angriest and most intimidating. When she stands up to him, he makes her pay for it—sooner or later. Friends say: “Leave him.” But she knows it won’t be that easy. He will promise to change. He’ll get friends and relatives to feel sorry for him and pressure her to give him another chance. He’ll get severely depressed, causing her to worry whether he’ll be all right. 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