--- title: "9 Abusive-partner Quotes By Lundy Bancroft" description: "9 Abusive-partner quotes by Lundy Bancroft. Plus more from Lundy Bancroft and more Abusive-partner sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b47/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_the-central-attitudes-driving-mr-sensiti_2114940.jpg" --- > [“The central attitudes driving Mr. Sensitive are: I’m against the macho men, so I couldn’t be abusive. As long as I use…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-central-attitudes-driving-mr-sensitive-are-i-m-against-the-macho/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b47/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_the-central-attitudes-driving-mr-sensiti_2114940.jpg) > [“The central attitudes driving the Drill Sergeant are: I need to control your every move or you will do it wrong. I…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-central-attitudes-driving-the-drill-sergeant-are-i-need-to/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/eea/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_the-central-attitudes-driving-the-drill_1362219.jpg) > [The central attitudes driving the Demand Man are: It's your job to do things for me, including taking care of my responsibilities…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-central-attitudes-driving-the-demand-man-are-it-s-your-job-to-do/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/07b/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_the-central-attitudes-driving-the-demand_441159.jpg) > [An abuser can seem emotionally needy. You can get caught in a trap of catering to him, trying to fill a bottomless…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/an-abuser-can-seem-emotionally-needy-you-can-get-caught-in-a-trap-of/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9a7/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_an-abuser-can-seem-emotionally-needy-you_2385103.jpg) > [The central attitudes driving the Water Torturer are: You are crazy. You fly off the handle over nothing. I can easily convince…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-central-attitudes-driving-the-water-torturer-are-you-are-crazy/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e1b/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_the-central-attitudes-driving-the-water_2452096.jpg) > [“The woman knows from living with the abusive man that there are no simple answers. Friends say: “He’s mean.” But she knows…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-woman-knows-from-living-with-the-abusive-man-that-there-are-no/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/145/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_the-woman-knows-from-living-with-the-abu_103780.jpg) > [“YOUR ABUSIVE PARTNER DOESN’T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH HIS ANGER; HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR ANGER. One of the basic human…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/your-abusive-partner-doesn-t-have-a-problem-with-his-anger-he-has-a/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/2f2/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_your-abusive-partner-doesn-t-have-a-prob_2108593.jpg) > [“IN ONE IMPORTANT WAY, an abusive man works like a magician: His tricks largely rely on getting you to look off in…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/in-one-important-way-an-abusive-man-works-like-a-magician-his-tricks/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/10b/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_in-one-important-way-an-abusive-man-work_2812221.jpg) > [“To make matters worse, everyone she talks to has a different opinion about the nature of his problem and what she should…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/to-make-matters-worse-everyone-she-talks-to-has-a-different-opinion/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/2c3/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_to-make-matters-worse-everyone-she-talks_2863062.jpg) ## More by Lundy Bancroft > [But whether you stay or go, the critical decision you can make is to stop letting your partner distort the lens of your life,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/but-whether-you-stay-or-go-the-critical-decision-you-can-make-is-to/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“On some level he hopes that his ability to transport you sexually will tie you to him, so that he can have power over…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/on-some-level-he-hopes-that-his-ability-to-transport-you-sexually/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“When people conclude that anger causes abuse, they are confusing cause and effect. Ray was not abusive because he was angry; he was angry…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/when-people-conclude-that-anger-causes-abuse-they-are-confusing-cause/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“Abuse doesn’t come from people’s inability to resolve conflicts but from one person’s decision to claim a higher status than another. So while it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/abuse-doesn-t-come-from-people-s-inability-to-resolve-conflicts-but/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [Few people are aware of the severe human rights violations committed daily by family court judges across the country. These courts are siding over…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/few-people-are-aware-of-the-severe-human-rights-violations-committed/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“The woman knows from living with the abusive man that there are no simple answers. Friends say: “He’s mean.” But she knows many ways…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-woman-knows-from-living-with-the-abusive-man-that-there-are-no/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“In short, the abusive mentality is the mentality of oppression.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/in-short-the-abusive-mentality-is-the-mentality-of-oppression/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“When we hear these kinds of excuses from a drunk, we assume they are exactly that—excuses. We don’t consider an active alcoholic a reliable…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/when-we-hear-these-kinds-of-excuses-from-a-drunk-we-assume-they-are/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“Abuse is not his goal, but control is, and he finds himself using abuse to gain the control he feels he has a right…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/abuse-is-not-his-goal-but-control-is-and-he-finds-himself-using-abuse/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“The central attitudes driving Rambo are: Strength and aggressiveness are good; compassion and conflict resolution are bad. Anything that could be even remotely associated…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-central-attitudes-driving-rambo-are-strength-and-aggressiveness/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“HE ISN’T ABUSIVE BECAUSE HE IS ANGRY; HE’S ANGRY BECAUSE HE’S ABUSIVE.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/he-isn-t-abusive-because-he-is-angry-he-s-angry-because-he-s-abusive/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“The symptoms of abuse are there, and the woman usually sees them: the escalating frequency of put-downs. Early generosity turning more and more to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-symptoms-of-abuse-are-there-and-the-woman-usually-sees-them-the/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“ALCOHOL HAS NO BIOLOGICAL CONNECTION TO ABUSE OR VIOLENCE Alcohol does not directly make people belligerent, aggressive, or violent. There is evidence that certain…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/alcohol-has-no-biological-connection-to-abuse-or-violence-alcohol/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“The central attitudes driving the Terrorist are: You have no right to defy me or leave me. Your life is in my hands. Women…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/the-central-attitudes-driving-the-terrorist-are-you-have-no-right-to/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) > [“Boys’ aggressiveness is increasingly being treated as a medical problem, particularly in schools, a trend that has led to the diagnosing and medicating of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/boys-aggressiveness-is-increasingly-being-treated-as-a-medical/) [Lundy Bancroft](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lundy-bancroft/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/abusive-partner/lundy-bancroft/#itemlist", "name": "9 Abusive-partner Quotes By Lundy Bancroft", "numberOfItems": 9, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“The central attitudes driving Mr. Sensitive are: I’m against the macho men, so I couldn’t be abusive. 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His desire, though he may not admit it even to himself, is that you wrack your brain in this way so that you won’t notice the patterns and logic of his behavior, the consciousness behind the craziness.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Lundy Bancroft" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lundy-bancroft/in-one-important-way-an-abusive-man-works-like-a-magician-his-tricks/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/10b/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_in-one-important-way-an-abusive-man-work_2812221.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/10b/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_in-one-important-way-an-abusive-man-work_2812221.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/10b/lundy-bancroft-6837_abuse_in-one-important-way-an-abusive-man-work_2812221.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“IN ONE IMPORTANT WAY, an abusive man works like a magician: His tricks largely rely on getting you to look…” — Lundy Bancroft", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 9, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“To make matters worse, everyone she talks to has a different opinion about the nature of his problem and what she should do about it. Her clergyperson may tell her, “Love heals all difficulties. Give him your heart fully, and he will find the spirit of God.” Her therapist speaks a different language, saying, “He triggers strong reactions in you because he reminds you of your father, and you set things off in him because of his relationship with his mother. You each need to work on not pushing each other’s buttons.” A recovering alcoholic friend tells her, “He’s a rage addict. He controls you because he is terrified of his own fears. You need to get him into a twelve-step program.” Her brother may say to her, “He’s a good guy. I know he loses his temper with you sometimes—he does have a short fuse—but you’re no prize yourself with that mouth of yours. You two need to work it out, for the good of the children.” And then, to crown her increasing confusion, she may hear from her mother, or her child’s schoolteacher, or her best friend: “He’s mean and crazy, and he’ll never change. All he wants is to hurt you. Leave him now before he does something even worse.” All of these people are trying to help, and they are all talking about the same abuser. 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