--- title: "2 Abusive Marriage Quotes by 2 authors" description: "Browse 2 Abusive Marriage quotes by 2 authors. Discover the best Abusive Marriage sayings and thoughts." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/802/susan-weitzman-48483_abuse_consider-these-traditional-theories-of-d_202119.jpg" --- > [“Consider these traditional theories of domestic abuse: - Learned helplessness suggest that abused women learn to become helpless under abusive conditions; they are powerless to extricate themselves from such relationships and/or unable to make adaptive choices - The cycle of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-weitzman/consider-these-traditional-theories-of-domestic-abuse-learned/) [Susan Weitzman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-weitzman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/802/susan-weitzman-48483_abuse_consider-these-traditional-theories-of-d_202119.jpg) > [I got married at 22 and remained in an abusive marriage for 10 years. I made up my mind that that was never going to happen to me again. I made a brave step to walk out in a society…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/joyce-banda/i-got-married-at-22-and-remained-in-an-abusive-marriage-for-10-years/) [Joyce Banda](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/joyce-banda/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e5f/joyce-banda-26839_abuse_i-got-married-at-22-and-remained-in-an-a_410540.png) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/abusive-marriage/#itemlist", "name": "Abusive Marriage Quotes", "numberOfItems": 2, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“Consider these traditional theories of domestic abuse: -\tLearned helplessness suggest that abused women learn to become helpless under abusive conditions; they are powerless to extricate themselves from such relationships and/or unable to make adaptive choices -\tThe cycle of violence describes a pattern that includes a contrition or honeymoon phase. The abusive husband becomes contrite and apologetic after a violent episode, making concerted efforts to get back in his wife’s good graces. -\tTraumatic bonding attempts to explain the inexplicable bond that is formed between a woman and her abusive partner -\tThe theory of past reenactments posits that women in abusive relationships are reliving unconscious feelings from early childhood scenarios. My research results and experience with patients do not conform to these concepts. I have found that the upscale abused wife is not a victim of learned helplessness. Rather, she makes specific decisions along the path to be involved in the abusive marriage, including silent strategizing as she chooses to stay or leave the marriage. Nor does the upscale abused wife experience the classic cycle of violence, replete with the honeymoon stage, in which the husband courts his wife to seek her forgiveness. As in the case of Sally and Ray, the man of means actually does little to seek his wife’s forgiveness after a violent episode. Further, the upscale abused wife voices more attachment to her lifestyle than the traumatic bonding with her abusive mate. And very few of the abused women I have met over the years experienced abuse in their childhoods or witnessed it between their parents. 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