--- title: "3 Abusers Quotes By Laurie Matthew" description: "3 Abusers quotes by Laurie Matthew. Plus more from Laurie Matthew and more Abusers sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a2b/laurie-matthew-31209_believe-in-god_the-people-who-were-behind-my-abuse-were_240595.jpg" --- > [“The people who were behind my abuse were very clever. They had created something which would be so difficult to explain, so…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/the-people-who-were-behind-my-abuse-were-very-clever-they-had-created/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a2b/laurie-matthew-31209_believe-in-god_the-people-who-were-behind-my-abuse-were_240595.jpg) > [“Some abusers organise themselves in groups to abuse children and other adults in a more formally ritualised way. Men and women in…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/some-abusers-organise-themselves-in-groups-to-abuse-children-and/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9bd/laurie-matthew-31209_abuse-sexual-abuse_some-abusers-organise-themselves-in-grou_584742.jpg) > [ “In a nutshell, the process they \[abusers in a ritual abuse group\] use on survivors is designed to: break the will and… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/in-a-nutshell-the-process-they-abusers-in-a-ritual-abuse-group-use-on/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f99/laurie-matthew-31209_abuse-sexual-abuse_in-a-nutshell-the-process-they-abusers-i_1534823.jpg) ## Other authors on Abusers - [Shannon Thomas 16 quotes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/abusers/shannon-thomas/) - [Lundy Bancroft 15 quotes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/abusers/lundy-bancroft/) - [ ![](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/uploads/sms4s/authors/processed/b005/author-beatrix-campbell-16711.jpg) Beatrix Campbell 6 quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/abusers/beatrix-campbell/) ## More by Laurie Matthew > [“Those who support such survivors of abuse often find it difficult to hear the reality of those survivors' lives and experience and are often…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/those-who-support-such-survivors-of-abuse-often-find-it-difficult-to/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) > [“The people who were behind my abuse were very clever. They had created something which would be so difficult to explain, so difficult to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/the-people-who-were-behind-my-abuse-were-very-clever-they-had-created/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) > [“Political prisoners describe: - extreme physical and emotional torture - distortion of language, truth, meaning and reality - sham killings - begin repeatedly taken…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/political-prisoners-describe-extreme-physical-and-emotional-torture/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) > [“Some abusers organise themselves in groups to abuse children and other adults in a more formally ritualised way. Men and women in these groups…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/some-abusers-organise-themselves-in-groups-to-abuse-children-and/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) > [“He loves me so he hurts me To try and make me good. It doesn't work. I'm just too bad And don't do what…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/he-loves-me-so-he-hurts-me-to-try-and-make-me-good-it-doesn-t-work-i/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) > [“Ritualised child sexual abuse is about abuse of power, control and secrecy. Ten years ago many people found it difficult to believe that fathers…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/ritualised-child-sexual-abuse-is-about-abuse-of-power-control-and/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) > [“I'm just asking you to accept that there are some people who will go to extraordinary lengths to cover up the facts that they…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/i-m-just-asking-you-to-accept-that-there-are-some-people-who-will-go/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) > [“It felt like I was living in two worlds. There was one world which was a daylight world and another dark world (though I'm…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/it-felt-like-i-was-living-in-two-worlds-there-was-one-world-which-was/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) > [ “In a nutshell, the process they \[abusers in a ritual abuse group\] use on survivors is designed to: break the will and personality of… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/in-a-nutshell-the-process-they-abusers-in-a-ritual-abuse-group-use-on/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) > [“In some counties, there is an actual named crime of ritual abuse and there too, there have been convictions.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/in-some-counties-there-is-an-actual-named-crime-of-ritual-abuse-and/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) > [“Ritual abuse is highly organised and, obviously, secretive. It is often linked with other major crimes such as child pornography, child prostitution, the drugs…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/ritual-abuse-is-highly-organised-and-obviously-secretive-it-is-often/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) > [“I have to find a place to hide An island in the sea Surrounded by a racing tide Where I can live with me”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/i-have-to-find-a-place-to-hide-an-island-in-the-sea-surrounded-by-a/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) > [“There is unmistakable proof that abusers do get together in order to share children, abuse more children, and even learn from each other. As…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/there-is-unmistakable-proof-that-abusers-do-get-together-in-order-to/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) > [“….Nothing was inevitable. She had not chosen this way. It was her fate. It had been decided since before time began. It had been…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/nothing-was-inevitable-she-had-not-chosen-this-way-it-was-her-fate-it/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) > [“There was nothing you could be sure about, it was all lies, and it was all done to mess with minds because the control…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/laurie-matthew/there-was-nothing-you-could-be-sure-about-it-was-all-lies-and-it-was/) [Laurie Matthew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/laurie-matthew/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/abusers/laurie-matthew/#itemlist", "name": "3 Abusers Quotes By Laurie Matthew", "numberOfItems": 3, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“The people who were behind my abuse were very clever. They had created something which would be so difficult to explain, so difficult to make sense of, that it would be easier to dismiss it all out of hand as the ramblings of an over-imaginative child. Many people don't want to believe that child abuse exists, or are only willing to believe that certain kinds of abuse go on. They don't want to consider that something so horrific, and yet so widespread, is taking place in their community, perhaps only a door away from them, a few steps from their lives - or even in their lives if they would only open their eyes. I know this, not just because of my own personal experience, but through my work supporting and listening to survivors and those still experiencing abuse. To ask people not only to believe in the abuse but also to take on board all the details of what I'm revealing is a big step, and it has taken me many years to make the decision to tell my story, but it has to be done. This type of abuse is ongoing, as is the culture of disbelief to make people dismiss anyone who talks about it. This needs to be challenged. The things I'm telling you in this book have been kept close to me all my life; I have always known that talking of them, telling my full story, would make some people incredulous - but it's true. It's all true. Whatever the set dressing, they were rapists and abusers - just plain and simple/ The trappings that surrounded the abuse was just a way of creating something that would allow them to do what they wanted to, but which would also allow for confusion on our parts, and devotion on the parts of the 'followers'. I think this is what many people find so hard when they are asked to believe in this sort of abuse. It all seems so fantastical, so it's easy to dismiss. I'm not asking you to believe in any of that. I'm not asking you to believe in Satan, I'm not even asking you to believe in God. 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