--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: We don't look at each other [in the car]…" description: "\"We don't look at each other [in the car], but instead do so only when we want to. We're allowed to look around without appearing rude. We have a big sc..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/441/abbas-kiarostami-2631_appearing_we-don-t-look-at-each-other-in-the-car-b_2570771.jpg" --- # We don't look at each other \[in the car\], but instead do… ![“We don't look at each other [in the car], but instead do so only when we want to. We're allowed to look around without appearing rude. We have a big screen in front of us and side views. Silence doesn't seem heavy or difficult.” quote by Abbas Kiarostami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/441/abbas-kiarostami-2631_appearing_we-don-t-look-at-each-other-in-the-car-b_2570771.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/441/abbas-kiarostami-2631_appearing_we-don-t-look-at-each-other-in-the-car-b_2570771.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/441/abbas-kiarostami-2631_appearing_we-don-t-look-at-each-other-in-the-car-b_2570771.jpg) > “We don't look at each other \[in the car\], but instead do so only when we want to. We're allowed to look around without appearing rude. We have a big screen in front of us and side views. Silence doesn't seem heavy or difficult.” [Abbas Kiarostami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/abbas-kiarostami/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. People choose when to engage socially, using screens as barriers to avoid perceived rudeness. **In simple terms:** We control when we look at others. Key Takeaway Be mindful of social cues. Themes social interaction technology etiquette Mood observational thoughtful Type philosophical descriptive When to use this quote - commuting - social gatherings Key Concepts screen usage public spaces Questions to Reflect On - When do you choose to look away? - How does screen use affect connection? 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