--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: In order to get to know who is in your…" description: "\"“In order to get to know who is in your System, each individual alter needs to complete a piece of paper in the form of a circle (or triangle) which co..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a4e/a-t-w-61112_alter-personalities_in-order-to-get-to-know-who-is-in-your-s_78301.jpg" --- # In order to get to know who is in your System, each… ![“In order to get to know who is in your System, each individual alter needs to complete a piece of paper in the form of a circle (or triangle) which contains the following information: their name, their age (it might be an age range, like age 4-7), and their traits. strengths and skills. (All parts…” quote by A.T.W](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a4e/a-t-w-61112_alter-personalities_in-order-to-get-to-know-who-is-in-your-s_78301.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a4e/a-t-w-61112_alter-personalities_in-order-to-get-to-know-who-is-in-your-s_78301.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a4e/a-t-w-61112_alter-personalities_in-order-to-get-to-know-who-is-in-your-s_78301.jpg) > ““In order to get to know who is in your System, each individual alter needs to complete a piece of paper in the form of a circle (or triangle) which contains the following information: their name, their age (it might be an age range, like age 4-7), and their traits. strengths and skills. (All parts must have a name. If they do not have a name, they need to choose one. lf their name was given to them by a perpetrator and is too upsetting or if it has a negative association, they may wish to change their name—that is perfectly ok. Any name that is not negative or triggering is fine—it does not have to be a standard ‘proper name’ as they are commonly thought of.) On the back of the circle or triangle they need to write down what caused them to split off.”” A.T.W ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A structured exercise for mapping internal parts of a self, assigning each a name, age, and traits, and noting the origin of its split, to foster self-awareness and integration. **In simple terms:** Self‑mapping exercise for inner parts Key Takeaway Name, age, traits, and split cause for each part Themes self‑knowledge internal family systems identity trauma integration personal development Mood curious introspective empowering Type instructional psychological self‑help When to use this quote - therapy sessions - coaching workshops - self‑reflection retreats - group dynamics training Key Concepts parts work naming as integration age as developmental stage strengths identification Practical Applications - personal insight - therapeutic alignment Questions to Reflect On - How does naming each part change your relationship with it? - What patterns emerge when you compare ages and traits across parts? ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Alter-personalities](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/alter-personalities/) [Dissociative-identity-disorder](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/dissociative-identity-disorder/) [Dissociative-parts](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/dissociative-parts/) [System](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/system/) ## Related quotes > [“People with DID often experience conflicting advice or opinions emanating from their alter personalities. 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