--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: And if any of you has a problem with any…" description: "\"“And if any of you has a problem with any of it, then it's *your* problem. Being gay is hard enough without having to worry about your family being wei..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/624/a-s-king-2293_family_and-if-any-of-you-has-a-problem-with-any_2603886.png" --- # And if any of you has a problem with any of it, then it's… ![“And if any of you has a problem with any of it, then it's *your* problem. Being gay is hard enough without having to worry about your family being weird about it.” quote by A.S. 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